medication and sudical thoughts

Hi @Appleblossom, thank you for your message

I am replying for my husband today who posted this last night ,

CBT/DBT type skills to manage it -- this is interesting , what is a good web site for this ?? and I know what CBT is , but what is DBT ??,

Hi @Shaz51 & hubby.

Anti-depressants have never stopped me from those type of thoughts for over 15 years. When things get bad I often feel the world would be better of without me & think/plan of different ways to leave it. While I have never attempted anything, even when I was at my worst, the thoughts do still come & go depending upon my mood.

I've never given much thought to really dealing with the thoughts probably because at least for now I believe I'm too much of a coward to actually do anything. Or maybe I'm strong enough not to act on them - that sounds better.

Take care both of you.

Thank you @Drac0,

my hubby liked your comment very much -- , specialists want to retrain his thinking ,he has had depression all his life and but he feels he is too old to start that .

@Drac0, You are STRONG

Hi @Drac0,

I think this is a sign of strength, as you well know, it's not easy living with thoughts like this. Its good that you are able to reflect that the thoughts come and go as well, perhaps something you can hold onto during the more trying times.

Take care

Rockpool

Hi @Former-Member, @Drac0,

I agree this is a sign of strength, yes my hubbysaid that it's not easy living with thoughts like this, everyday is different

hi everyone , my husband like some tips to handle these thoughts

I am hoping someone can offer suggestions here @Shaz51.

While for all these years I've managed to just carry on & keep going when they come around there is always the idea there that maybe, just maybe, one day it might take hold. It would be nice to have some strategies in place to deflect them or at least stop them taking over.

Take care.

Thank you @Drac0

you take care too

The best I have come up with is to

note it, but try not to let it drop down ino my heart chakra/area ... if it is just cerebral ... it will wander away and other thoughts will replace it ...like the yoga or buddhist approach ... it tends to get less of a fix on my whole being and motivation ... I will talk at it ... "Oh there you are hanging around gain" "havent ou got eanything better to do"

I dont respond to it too preciously

Having said that .. I got an attack of suicidal thinking in choir on Sunday ... I could not focus on the singing ... and was tearing up ... I used to tear up in choir before but it wasnt necessarily triggered by SI.. this time it was ... that is apparently due to the body's unconscious response ... it does nt want me to hurt it ... ie ... me.

dont know if it makes sense ... I have struggled with clear Suicidal ideation since 1986 .... 30 years now ... I have never made an attempt ... but also written out my thoughts ... and plans sometimes ...

any other ideas ... anybody??