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Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 Sept 2018, 8:40 am AEST

Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

This topic has come to us as a result from the poll we put out to you, the community. For this Topic Tuesday event will have a special guest from our Peer Ambassador program @jess_27 to share insights from their own lived experience, covering the postitive effects of social connection, managing the challenges of some negatives and idea sharing on tips and strategies to approach maintaining healthy social connections in your life.

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AdgeSenior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

That's a brilliant saying @jess_27

In my experience it is the people who benefitted my me having no boundaries (being compliant & passive) - who did get very angry, when I set a boundary or spoke assertively (to them).

They didn't want me to change.

Adge

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:50 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

@Adge Sometimes walking away says more than staying - it lets people know that they have crossed a line and you need time-out for yourself as well - so well done on doing that for your own self-care.

@jess_27 lol happy to have you stay

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jess_27Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:52 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Exactly @Adge!

Oddly enough I think it is the relationships that resist change and boundaries the most that benefit from them the most as well. If mine and my Mum's relationship is anything to go by, we were very enmeshed and I was more of a therapist than a child, getting her to respect my boundaries took a lot of time an dwas very difficult. But it was so worth it because our relationship is better than ever!

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jess_27Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

So we haven't got much time left but tell me more about how online places like the forums help open you up and why is that?

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

This forum is my major source of connections @jess_27 I do have some interactions through fb but I limit those also. My other major connection is with my DBT group - again though that is limited to once a week and the couple of ongoing connections I have made outside of that group. I really do find face to face interactions for a prolonged period of time - or in groups that aren't (and sometimes are) work related.

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AdgeSenior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Well mainly this forum (support network) @jess_27

Plus online dating - although I'm not keen on how it works (or frequent disappointment).Online dating definitely get me out meeting new people (even if only once), in new places (coffee shops & parks) etc.

Thanks @Zoe7

Adge

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

jess_27Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:56 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

@Adge It's interesting to think of how online dating kind of crosses that barrier. I've never really thought it that way.

So what makes places liek the forums so special? (like I know but tell me anyway lol)

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:57 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

This forum works because everyone can share their experiences knowing there will be others around that understand what they are going through. Sometimes only a few words are needed but the support is always there. It is a place that you can say as little or as much as you feel you can share and others will be there to listen.

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jess_27Senior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:57 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

@Zoe7 I'm interested to know how you found the forum?

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frogSenior Contributor20 Nov 2018, 8:58 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Creating and maintaining social connections // Tues 20 Nov, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Zoe7 I relate to what you're saying about being a loner. The forum has been good for me to dip my toe in the water in terms of social connections, and it has made me a bit more confident IRL, but I am pretty cautious. I have felt so misunderstood and disconnected most of my life, that it feels risky to let people in. It also wears me out. My dogs are wonderful, and I'm happy for you with Toby. I am so far behind the discussion but never mind.

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