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Awareness of Women's Mental Health

Awareness of Women's Mental Health

I am not sure of the details but last night I heard that this week or next week has something to do with the awareness of Women's Mental Health Issues

One thing that comes to me constantly is how many women have poor self-esteem - I am not immune but I was lucky - I was able to break out of the patttern after my mother died - which was over 3.5 years ago now

I have asked myself often where so many women have come to the idea that they are not good enough - less than - worthless - whatever term. It is a harsh reality and I feel there are two sources I can identify

One of them was my mother - I could never get along with her and gave up years back - walked away from her often - I was told I was argumentative and she was right - I was - I refused to take what she was pushing down my throat

But it wasn't until I realised that I had spent my life doing worthwhile things to build my self-esteem that I was able to shove off the feeling that I was not good enough -

Have other people had this happen - they have been pushed down by their mothers and other female elders in their lives and felt not good enough only to burst out into the light when the pressue has been relieved

Then there is society - I doubt I will ever try and fit in again - I seem to have lost part of myself trying to fit in with groups of people - actually I get along very well by myself and with a few people at a time - or one person at a time -

As I write this I think I am walking over a huge pile of ideas - I would like to hear from other people - I will list a few people I can think of as I end this post - I feel that my ideas are cluttered too

Of course women are not alone in this "less than" category - there are men like this also - and of course there are women who are okay

Enough from me though - I want to throw this open to the forum

Dec

@utopia@outlander@Zoe7@Faith-and-Hope@saturnzoon@Former-Member@Sophia1

I will post this and edit it as I find more people to add - my mind has gone blank

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@Razzle How are you going? I was wondering if you find your counselling helpful.

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@Razzle Oh wow, my heart aches after reading your post. Your in the right place here for people to listen to you and support you and I for one am here for you.

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hello @Jumpingcactus, how are you today

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@Shaz51 Hi, thanks for asking. I’m not feeling the best and had a bit of an emotional feeling day. Waiting for the emotional pain to go away when I finally fall asleep, at least when I’m asleep my mind is partially at rest. I get comfort knowing people here are all here because they can talk about there deepest emotions.

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hugs @Jumpingcactus and sitting with you

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@Shaz51 Thanks for that hug, I needed it. ❤️

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@Shaz51. So when those memories arise now, do you still feel that intense sense of abandonment? Or pain? Or is it less now - more just a sadness for what wasn't and what was? I think that's all I feel now about my childhood.

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I still feel that intense sense of abandonment? @utopia, even after my dad passed away , before then I always tried to be the good daughter, but he kept on rejecting me , yes it coud be sadness too

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@Jumpingcactus Not gonna lie, councilling has been hard. I find it very hard to to talk about the last assault/s.

Marriage counciling is up and down, we make a little progress and then we go backwards, then forwards, then backwards..... I know the child sexual abuse in my past plays a huge part, I’m trying to work through that.

My councilling dealing with CSA had kind of ground to a halt because I couldn’t talk about the last one so the councillor didn’t know which direction we could take because he didn’t really know what had actually happened, what he was dealing with. Last weekend I wrote a kind of journal, explaining everything in graphic detail. It was horrendous, even worse was handing it over and letting him read it (while I cried the whole time)

But, I’ve given this little girl that has been hidden away for 40 years a voice, it’s scary and I feel like shit most of the time, but I’m not carrying that burden on my own anymore.

My councillor is brilliant at asking the hard questions, but he also accepts that I don’t always have the answers either. He’s very reassuring that things will get better for me, and after our last session I think things will move forward again.

Sometimes it’s just nice to know there is someone in my corner giving support where I’ve never had it before. I had been threatened so many times that I couldn’t tell anyone, that my abuser would harm my parents (resulting in death), but now my councillor has given me the power to speak up, and for that I am grateful.

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Hi @Razzle

wow that would have been very tough and emotional draining writing everything down in detail.now that your counsellor has read it he will be able to help you.

I’m similar to you where I didn’t remember my childhood abuse fir over 40 yrs and the inner child was too scared to open up snd tslk. At times I’m still scared but I do have a great psychologist sbd she lets me just be me. At times in my session I feel I’m the the girl snd she lets me go eith it dnd helps me understand.

I really feel for you. ❤️❤️❤️

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