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Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 June 2018, 2:55 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

At SANE we were over-whelmed a while back at the level of response to our sex and intimacy survey. Many of those responses were from carers who honestly shared the complications that mental illness had introduced into their relationship.

In this Topic Tuesday we’ll be sharing some of those findings along with strategies that couples have developed to help them deal with the changes they faced.

Please join SANE Help Centre Manager @Former-Member for a real and honest discussion about sex, physical intimacy and the connection with our mental health.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

AdgeSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 9:00 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I like your description very much @Former-Member

A life lived (hopefully) well, rather than baggage.

Beautiful scars yes, some people said I should call them "battle scars".

Compassion, yes definitely.

Adge

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 9:01 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I'd like to thank you all hugely for joining the discussion tonight. It's not an easy one so I appreciate you showing up and getting involved. And thanks to those who read along as well. I hope there was something of value to be found.

Stay tuned for some helpful resources later in the year and thanks for your suggestions.

And please make sure that you check in with someone if you found the conversation triggering. Lifeline 13 11 14 can be a good place to start.

Have a good night everyone 🙂

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

DeterminedSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 9:02 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I'm with @Former-Member re 1 on 1 relationship

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

AdgeSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 9:03 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @Former-Member

Thanks everyone.

That was worthwhile & helpful, I think.

No air-brushing in real life, I like that one (although I wish there was).

Adge

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

TarniaContributor24 July 2018, 9:28 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I can talk with him about it. But I don't look forward to it. I can't see why I honestly have to engage in the act at all! 😂

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TarniaContributor24 July 2018, 9:31 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Agree. There really is not enough time to talk about these things.

Psychitrist I was speaking to was not really worried or not whether I wanted to engage with my partner or not. But than again I hardly got much time with her 😞

@Former-Member wrote:
No, @Morticia I was saying that you need to choose what you bring into the counselling room. And if you are feeling despairing and at risk of suicide, then you're unlikely to decide to focus the session on your lack of sex drive. This is particularly true when some people only get the 6 or 10 medicare sessions.

Sorry if I didn't express that well. I just meant that people need to prioritise and that sex often misses out.

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 10:28 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I am afraid there is no way of asking this without being blunt and I do not mean to offend but on the carer side there are some who would appreciate understanding how those with LE feel.

I know sex is not everything but to most blokes it is important and I would see that withholding sex would not be particularly advantageous to a relationship.

A healthy relationship usually involves giving to one another. In the absence of intimacy, how do you feel you contribute to the relationship that would show your partner you appreciate them?

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