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Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember18 June 2018, 2:55 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

At SANE we were over-whelmed a while back at the level of response to our sex and intimacy survey. Many of those responses were from carers who honestly shared the complications that mental illness had introduced into their relationship.

In this Topic Tuesday we’ll be sharing some of those findings along with strategies that couples have developed to help them deal with the changes they faced.

Please join SANE Help Centre Manager @Former-Member for a real and honest discussion about sex, physical intimacy and the connection with our mental health.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:43 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I think we just said pretty much the same thing at about the same time @Former-Member!

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:46 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

But you're still there @Determined looking after your wife and family. How do you make that work?

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:47 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @Shaz51 for sharing that.

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:51 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

We're going to need to wrap us soon but I just wanted to say that I'm going to be developing some fact sheets to help people lived experience, partners/carers and mental health professionals with this topic.

Is there any particular aspect of how your or your loved ones MI impacts on your sex life and physical intimacy that you'd like to be included in the fact sheets?

Now is the time to influence the content!

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AdgeSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 8:51 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Yes all good things do take work (sort of) @Former-Member

I'm happy to do the work, I always have or tried to, even with friendships.

I've never adapted to online dating, when it's the most available (or only) option, for many people.

Plus I'm now much older - many people tell me that it's much harder to find a partner or relationship, when you're in your 50's (or approaching).

Adge

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 8:52 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

Sometimes I am able to accept it better than others @Former-Member It can be hard and has created a lot of conflict at times .

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Shakeelah25Senior Contributor24 July 2018, 8:55 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

def coping strategies and how its about what works best for you at the end of the day. No one should feel pressured to do anything that they don't want. communication is key to fulfilling the needs of both partners (this from a girl not in a relationship haha)

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:56 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I think it's genuinely hard at any age @Adge. But what you described earlier can either be seen as baggage or as the hallmarks of a life lived. Which we all get if we're lucky enough to get older.

Life leaves it's scars physically and psychologically but those scars can be beautiful - full of wisdom and vulnerability and humaneness. We need to develop compassion and appreciation for our own and those of the people who come into our lives. It's very counter-cultural though. There's no air-brushing in real life!

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Unknown userMember24 July 2018, 8:57 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

I am what some would call an 'old fashioned' girl a one man woman.

I think that physical intimacy is for a loving committed relationship and did not feel the need to have sex with any Tom, Richard or Harry.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 July 2018, 8:58 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Sexuality and intimacy // Tues 24 July, 7pm AEDT

How to instigate a discussion re intimacy (or lack of) in a non threatening way. Understanding this may be different for everyone.

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