My life partner has Bipolar ii

It’s rewarding even getting a little bit done, don’t you think @Former-Member ?

We have been having family talks about how to clean up the giant mess in our home, and a commitment from everyone to chip in a little bit. Every time we come back I am endeavouring to tackle something, no matter how small, but even the thought is tiring. My mr. doesn’t want to live here anymore, and while I am sad about that, I have a pragmatic side that is considering whether we should move to something that is easier to lock up and leave ..... just accept that our life has changed now, and maybe the house has to change too.

Step one is cleaning up. We are not in a position to move like this .....

I think that is the problem I am having @Faith-and-Hope Me D wanted us to move here, I did not want to, but see divine intervention in so many ways. Things have changed, Mr D still in many ways still so unwell, he had his injury which continues to affect him adversely, we have not been able to look after our little property and psychologically I don't think Mr D in a position to make life decisions about moving home, let alone where to from here so at present we sit tight. As we tidy I am containerising - making it easier for if we move or if we stay.

hello @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Determined

My bipolar 11 mr shaz was tired when he woke up this morning , we went to work and came home for lunch at 12 o oclock , and Mr shaz fell asleep until 2-30 pm and then we did 2 mowing jobs

How is Mr Shaz's sleeping as a whole @Shaz51?

Lots of snoring hrough the night , also other unny sounds while he is sleeping @Former-Member

Does he wake up during the night @Shaz51? Worth getting checked for sleep apnoea?

He had a sleep apnoea test and he is adverage @Former-Member

I remember now you have mentioned this before @Shaz51

Thought I would tackle some of the symptoms that Mr Darcy experiences with his BPii and how I try and deal with them but am always on the look out for different or better ways to cope.

Problem: Hopelessness

The first one I will tackle is one that I do find hard to deal with is the sense of hopelessness and the inability to see that things can get better. Mr Darcy has had an ongoing medical issue as a result of an attempt he made, he is not able to work full time.

Underlying thoughts:

- The absence of hope is a symptom that can put fear in my heart if I allow it to BUT

- Pre diagnosis, Mr D tackled things with enthusiasm and

- I really feel that he can again have hope - that he will be able to look forward to

things and feel that he is making a positive contribution.

What I do to cope:

- I realise that the process of coming to terms with his attempt, his diagnosis, grief in relation to the losses he has had will take time and it is a process that cannot be hurried. Being patient ... showing compassion.

- Being alert but not alarmed, at present, the medications Mr D is on have made a huge difference - he has not had any suicidal thoughts or thoughts about running away (he went missing a few times).

- Trying to engage with activities he previously enjoyed - we have been going to the movies as he enjoys doing that.

- If Mr D suggests we do something, especially if it with others, I will oblige unless it is not practical.

Thank you for sharing this @Former-Member. I think we will be faced with fallout from our situation ongoing. My mr’s teeth have started chipping really badly, and he has Raynaud’s Syndrome, which affects his ability to stay out in the cold. There will likely be other physical repercussions from his condition and we will just have to learn to manage them and the affects on our lives. Seeing how you are working through and around things helps.

I will containerise more than I have been @Former-Member, and for that reason, it’s more practical for either staying or moving. Will endeavour to pick up storage containers this afternoon. Thanks for the nudge.