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Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

We asked members what they would like to talk about for the next Topic Tuesday and here it is! Helping a loved one that doesn't want help. We will be talking about how to become better informed, managing frustrations and self care, support by listening and setting boundaries.

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Throughout the session, the facilitator will put questions out for you to answer, usually asking for your own experience on the topic. To contribute to the session, just hit the 'reply' button and share your thoughts. No answers are right or wrong and everyone is welcome to get involved.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

I've just managed to log on here, and trying to work through the discussion posts, but I'm really keen to know if anyone has any experience with some sort of "intervention" with a loved one that didn't want help? Do these sorts of things actually happen, and can they work??

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Yes @Former-Member I find there are certain times that are easier to communicate these suggestions with my partner, but also not too much , too quickly

it is easier to reflect and share when they are in a slightly better headspace, very true @Former-Member, I have tried printing the information out , but he wont read anything , so bit by bit over time I have suggested things but then I have to keep suggesting the same things over again

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

way to go @sbmc

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Hi @menundi83 - unforuntaely we are finishing up but I am glad you got online! In terms of intervention you may find it useful to look through the broader forums and even post your question to the community to get feedback

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

It is time to wrap up everyone, but I want to thank you all for sharing and being open to ideas and thoughts on this subject area – it is not an easy one and I know it can be easy to say but in action can be hard to play out.

We have discussed a lot of challenges tonight and I just wanted to say how amazing you all are for getting involved tonight and finding out ways to help both yourself and your loved one.

Is there one thing from tonight you can take away and try to apply to your current situation? Maybe make it a goal this week!

I’ve referenced a few quotes and there are some more great resources on this subject, including previous Topic Tuesdays we have done! So, I will leave this list here for you all for some further reading when you feel like it.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

RESOURCES

Other articles about helping someone when they don’t want help:

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @Shaz51! I was just scrolling through to reply to your post about finding the right times to share what you know with your husband. It seems like you’re working really hard and respectfully to share in a way that works best for him. Such a challenging skill! Way to go to you too!

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Thank you @Former-Member & everyone.

Much appreciated.

1) Working on, & continuing to work on healthy boundaries (that's a work in progress).

2) Listening Skills.

3) Doing helpful Research.

That's what I will take away with me...

Adge

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Gaye1, I'd love to know the answer to your first question! The healthcare system here (I'm in NSW) seems quite flawed. A couple of times we've managed to get my sister close to a professional (GP's and Beyond Blue helpline), and they haven't taken her situation seriously 😞

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Helping a loved one who doesn't want help // Tues 26 June, 7pm AEDT

thank you @sbmc

thank you @Former-Member for tonight

@sbmc, @menundi83, @Yabitha, @Corny, @Adge, @Former-Member, come and have a look around the forum and meet some wonderful carers and members

I am going to bed now , very tired , but can I tag you all tomorrow , or @Former-Member and @Adge can tag you now to our hot chocolate thread xoxo

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