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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom I forgot to mention, I’m reading a good book atm, you might already know or have read it. Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors by Janina Fisher.
It sounds all about DID, but it’s not. It’s about the parts of all trauma survivors. You might be interested in a read. It’s in the library down this way, so might be up your way too. 💜💜💕💕☕️☕️☕️
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@outlander
Your quality shines through.@Maggie It helps.
Thats right, I think it is finally a settling within and being left with what is me. I am not just my story, its part of me, but I am something more.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Haven't resd back posts @Appleblossom - had a very tough day but wanted to acknowledge that you are certainly not just your history, not just your story - you are YOU and whilst the past influences who we are it does not define us - and you have worked so hard to overcome so much and that takes inner strength. Believe in the light that is within you and keep allowing the wonderful person you are to shine through. Belief is something we often lack but what we so readily need - believe in YOU because you are enough
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom Thinking of you.
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ethSenior Contributor
Hi @Appleblossom Warm wishes from me too. I am finding that having supports is helping me get my act together and see a lot more progress. Just sayin'. It's not necessarily an either/or situation. Lots of love xx
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hugs @eth It is good you have hope and some things are available.
It would be better if it were a natural part of the social fabric, but it is becoming part of the medical system. So that is the way it is.
For me, making and keeping the appointments keeps me busy and is a way of deflecting disappointment, despair and SI.
@Maggie Hugs and Thank you. I keep seeing your warm gentle presence floating around the forum. Though religion has fewer supporters these days, and has been problematic in my life, I am still drawn to people who have the depth it encourages
@outlander Gentle kiss on the cheek. Not less or more than a hug, but feeling your struggle with physical issues. The ongoing presence of good people is a new and healing experience for me, as those in my real life were stretched too thin.
My gp wants me to go back to when my family was normal. She is a darling, but not sure normal is where it is at. Nerdy Me goes straight to the Bell normal curve in stats. Historically the pressures on my family have been significant. Best I come up with is normal human reactions and coping mechanisms to abnormal life events. So I tend to relate to women who have done and remember or value some maths, which is not as common as all that.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
hugs @Appleblossom
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom 💕💕💕💜💜🌷🌷🌷
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