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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
It sounds like your GP is not very supportive @Appleblossom and that is a shame 
Take what she has said with a grain of salt and do what you feel comfortable with 
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thanks @Zoe7 @Bunniekins @outlander
The gp said I could mark changes and additions and leave it at reception and she would change it, as I request.
I think I will distance from it a bit, show it to mental health worker next week, and talk it through with her and maybe NDIS person. I am not going through a local area co-ordinator. I can submit it after the meeting, apparently. I dont feel up to thinking through all possible consequences atm.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Take the time with it that you can @Appleblossom Discussing it with others is probably a good idea when you are up to it and then make the changes you feel need to be made. This is about you in the end Apple and you have a say in what is being said
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ethSenior Contributor
Love to you @Appleblossom
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JacquesSenior Contributor
hi myy virtual mum, no i don't take any of it personally, even thought i have family connections to the german past, i don't believe in what they did.
all sides suffered through the second world war, the jewish population ,the germans, the english, the french, well every european country as well as aus and usa.
it worries me as i can see signs we are heading back down this same path today, our generation have forgotten the horrors of war and we are taking on the same thinking that created the national socialist party of the 40's. i just hope we can pull back before it is too late.
there is so much hatred and violence in this world, so much fear over cultures we don't know, i worry about what world we leave the next generation and if we can learn form the past and not allow it to happen again.
i am really sorry about your dutch friend, my aunt goes to a lot of funerals as she is the only on in our area who can play the organ. i worry too what effect that has on her mental health and on yours. but i understand you want to farewell and reflect on your time with your friends.
gentle hugs my friend. i would love to discuss this more if you want to.
Jacques
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Jacques
Lovely to hear from you
I am glad you are out in the garden.
I have neglected mine, but still working on it being drought tolerant, but also vibrant mini plot. A fellow at end of the court called it an oasis. That was nice.
I think you are wise, when you mentioned self care for yourself, especially self protection, when things are not good.
Yes lets keep options open to talk here and there ...
about life.
Yes I agree there is more hurt, fear and anger and more paranoia in today's society. I dont go into doom & gloom about it. Even though we have so much material security and access to knowledge. We have it so much better than 1940s ... Unbelievable the changes since then. For me, I met random german people more often and clicked with them. Yet the sense of pain and suffering real.
With 7 billion individuals on the planet, it can get tricky about resources ...
Just listening to Sadhguru ... on youtube ... but I do not have any one guru ...
Are you in the garage more or still sharing the lounge?
Hugs
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TeejSenior Contributor
Cooeee @Appleblossom . It’s taken me a bit to get back here. It sounds like you’ve had lots of reflection time of late as well. I do love that we can cooee too. Cooee me anytime you want please.
Sorry that youve been a bit confronted with what the GP wrote. I know in the past I’ve been told that something might be confronting in a report but it was written more as a way to get the supports I needed at the time than being the whole truth. I would have missed out on getting some vital supports otherwise. I’ve become less precious about what others write now and more caring of how they interact with me and what they say during consultations. I also need to feel that the person writing the report actually knows me and has my best interests at heart.
I hope today finds you well. I’m more than 4 weeks since my last crisis period and counting.... and maybe gloating a bit much about that too 😜💜🤗
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
4 weeks is good. @Teej
It is the start of it not being constant. Dont be hard on self re gloating, keep doing some back patting. Maybe milder than a victory dance ....
I started calling my crisis issues "events" helped me get a bit of perspective and distance from them. Mostly it was neck problems but also emotional. It helped me to separate them out so I could then react more appropriately to what was going on for me rather than ... throw it all in ....So neck events, emotional blowouts, or times my behaviour got out of whack. Physical, emotional, behavioural ...
Yes time to reflect is good. I still am not sure I approve of all the anti ruminating talk, but it depends on what is going for the individual. I am not really a worrier, and make it top priority to keep grounded and practical, but it does not always happen, like today ...
I was lost in my thoughts, and did not get moving for dental appointmen. Showed me how ambivalent I am about doing things for myself, but my son was worried saying I dont look after my teeth ... so .... they were good about my flakiness and I am going back in 15 mins.
Cooooo eeeeee!
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
So teeth done, though still need splint ... but later
Made it to gig Sat night through hell and high water ... ie lots of rain and traffic. They are good people, at least Ilike overall ethic of group. Saw a Sane lady there.
Made it to zoo today, but a bit triggered, by stuff and ...reading ndis letter and deciding how to deal with it.
it has gone to my neck ... OUCH ...which I have managed to avoid for over a year. YAY
Tomorrow I do hope I make my group as it is late now, and it started early for me.
to all who care ...
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@Appleblossom You have been a great support for me over the last couple of years and I really wanted you to know how much I have appreciated your unique insight and way of communicating with both me and others. We have shared a lot from different perspectives and that has made it all the more special to me. I love your love for art, history and music and all those things make you the special and unique person you are. I hope for nothing but peace and happiness for you and hope that you find it in your life. Take care of you Hon - you deserve only the good that life can bring
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