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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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Till23Senior Contributor
Hi @Appleblossom sounds like you’ve had an active morning.
I, for some reason, found it difficult today but also managed to have interactions with random people and we had a laugh, even though I felt dreadful. It’s interesting that we do that, not show our true selves, or perhaps feelings.
I am glad you are taking care of yourself with mindfulness and self-care. I had a quick lie down on the lounge on my verandah after I got home from shopping etc.
Off to do some more things now, before the guilt gets too bad.
I hope you find some peaceful moments at least in the rest of your day
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MissGremlinSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom really hope you haven't felt ignored by me. I haven't replied much lately and for that I'm sorry. Sending you hugs and I'm here for you ❤️
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hugs @MissGremlin I know you do the best you can and have a lot on your plate too.... Ah... Metaphors... Sometimes they can have too many associations.... Hope you are managing all life's essentials.
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MissGremlinSenior Contributor
Thanks sweet @Appleblossom. life likes to just keep throwing things my way. I'm sorry though if you felt ignored or dismissed by me at all, I truly am. I've been struggling to find the words to reply to alot of posts lately.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Dear @Dimity no need for apologies. Yes I have agonised in all sorts of directions about it. I am doing due diligence of consulting widely. Including with an OT and psychologist and friends. You being you, and sharing your experience and your caring is helpful. Don't worry.
@Till23 it is odd how we can find a way to be social and light hearted even though going through stuff. I walked with my support worker to local beach... Made old man laugh cos he had 2 gorgeous dogs on lead because they get all the compliments, not him. Lol
Also made girl at cash register laugh. However really I am going through major issues, needing to make decisions and not just numb the pain with meds and do nothing.
I am slowly taking off my rose coloured glasses.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
It wasn't you @MissGremlin gentle hugs... Words are often not anyway... though they can help. we do what we can.
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JynxModerator
@Appleblossom wrote:
I am feeling ignored and dismissed when I am going through major crises on a thread I created 10 years ago for times I am feeling very vulnerable and stressed. Nobody owns a thread, but there are different ways of showing respect and inclusion…. Eg tagging or relating about conversation. I am not sure if it is deliberate or unintentional, but felt I should mention it.
Hi @Appleblossom - just wanted to touch base and let you know I am hearing you. If you'd like to discuss this further please feel free to reach out to the team via team@saneforums.org
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Till23Senior Contributor
Oh @Appleblossom I was not aware that people considered people who were on NDIS as low life. I would have thought it's because the person had some kind of condition that precluded them from working. I thought it was difficult to get NDIS and you had to have assessments. As you can probably see I am not really across it.
I made a lady laugh while she was waiting for a flu vaccination, just after I'd had mine, so I counted that as a win.
I am sorry that you are in your current situation, hopefully you can get a good team together to help you. I am here though, not that I can probably help in any practical way.
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AbnerSenior Contributor
Valid point @Appleblossom . I'll take it onboard.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
We all live and learn @Abner
I had a good discussion about clarifying things in conversation today. Just the little back and forth that is often needed.
How are you going? You mentioned being on DSP and doing a little teaching. That’s what I have done, but no students this term as I have growing music commitments and a lot on personally. Just important to keep earnings in line with Centrelink requirements.
A long time ago I used to write submissions referring cases to prosecution for fraud. Just my weird very diverse personal work experience. While living in a very LGBTIQ plus suburb. We grew up very disadvantaged but I am trying to milk all my experiences for the best outcome. In that way I have lived a rich life.
@MissGremlin @Jynx @Dimity
@Till23 I never used to be able to get people to laugh, but I have been consciously working on it for last 10 years and that, at least is paying off. As in spontaneous, in the moment timing etc, and not planning it.
I get my support worker to laugh a lot. I have a 3 hour shift per week. It has helped anchor me, although for a couple years I was accepting being bullied by support staff. Learning to stand up for myself. I was brought up to do self sacrifice to a dangerous degree. Anyway this lady I have had for 18 months and she is worth her weight in gold. I was rolled over from NEAMI client list to NDIS just before COVID. I didn’t actually apply. I was on DSP for neck condition and psychosocial as secondary. I am no stranger to bureaucracy. I don’t particularly like it, which is why I studied Sacred Music and started teaching piano, but I got oodles of promotions in 3 government departments.
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