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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
For a while I have tried to find a thread I had started when I joined the forum that could be a "home" thread for me.
Being busy about the forum has been a coping style, where I can acknowledge all my different life experiences that had been silenced. Possibly do some good and prevent things from getting worse. Like the little boy with the finger in the dyke.
Feeling fragile
Needing Nurture
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@outlander
I know you have had difficult times recently. It was just me not thinking as I was ending post. I have read your psots here and there.
Its 1 am here and I should be off to bed. Brain fogging and starting to fade.
Dont worry I am too sensible in my old age to try and manage it without proper protocols.
I saw you were thinking of studying and not sure because you wanted to spend time with your pop.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@outlanderI am glad you are hanging in there and not letting the black dog get to you.
Yes I did finally get to sleep, but a bit anxious about getting my son to do a job, and then this morning an odd nightmare. I have been getting them regularly, but trying not to let them get to me.
No I did not leave a choir recently.
Cheers Bella
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@Appleblossom, I've tried singing again but for the first time in my life i don't have the breath. I get breathless / lack breath control. Do ya think at my age i'll get to it back with prac? Lung Capacity. Have u known anyone who has? I wish I was you sometimes, wow xox
Hi @outlander xox
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outlanderSenior Contributor
i think youll succeed in whatever you put your heart and mind to.In response to: Re: Fragile
oceangirlSenior Contributor
So much insight and wisdom @outlander
How are you?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
NP @outlander
Thank you for your message- its good to deal with things as they come up. It shows maturity and someone that seems really sensible to me.
I'm struggling atm but I am ok. I've had a relapse but trying my best to deal with it- it is so hard for me righ now especially with Milo being sick.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@outlander He forgot to do the job, so maybe I should have got up and told him, or done it myself. Ahh dear stuff happens.
@Former-Member I believe you could get back into singing if you want. There is nothing that really stops us when we are older if we are using decent technique. The trick might be NOT to compare you when you were in your peak, but use you old knowledge to bring yourself up to speed again. Many people shift between mezzo and soprano etc... depending on what they are doing.
It is so energising and healing and I reccomend sticking at it for a couple of terms before you get too picky on yourself.
Choirs are great as the weight of concert does not fall on one person's shoulders. Share the joy.
Hello @oceangirl Sorry that Milo is still struggling.
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