Hi @Jojo2 How are you going?
Hey, are you a list maker? What I find helps me is to make lists of things I do. In my study I have a wall above my study desk that has heaps of lists stuck to it that help me organise my life and minimise all the confusion I feel.
One of the lists I have is called "Things I Like Doing". When children come along you can sometimes lose track of what makes you feel good because its no longer about you anymore. But, it is still good to acknowledge what makes you feel good because this is part of defining who you are as a person.
My list looks something like this:
Things I Like Doing
Playing Guitar
Listening to Music (The Eagles, Keith Urban, Missy Higgins, etc)
Writing Poetry
Short Walks
Eating Chocolate (small amounts)
Watching TV (Gogglebox, Bondi Rescue, The Project etc)
Visiting Family
Coffee with friend at Shops
DVDs (Romantic Comedies, Action)
etc etc
By doing this list you can start to see what you like doing for yourself. If you start doing a few of these things you will be introducing things that you like into your life and you will start to enjoy it again. It can't be all work and study. You could take it a step further and make a weekly plan where you map out your activities and then you are really cooking with gas. You could also put in your times for study, cooking, cleaning etc.
Organisation, organisation, organisation.
The only way I have been able to do this is through List after List. Unravelling a twisted bundle of rope.
One of the first things I did was put my favourite CD on the stereo. I can listen to my favourite music all day while doing things if I want to. Everyone likes music.
Anyway, just a few of my thoughts. Talk soon.