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Seeking mutual support from carers

Bella1978Senior Contributor23 Mar 2018, 12:49 pm AEDT

Seeking mutual support from carers

Reaching out to others who are in a caring role. I look after my mother with multiple health issues, including depression and anxiety. I feel stuck. I can see the signs that the depression has reared its head but my mum doesn't see it. I really struggle when my mum's mental health suffers. I too battle with depression and anxiety. Emotionally, I am all over the place. Hoping there are some others out there who understand what I'm going through.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 11:51 am AEST

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Hi @Bella1978 have not had a chance to fully catch up on your thread here but just wanted to touch base and hope everything is going ok for yoru and your mum,

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Bella1978Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 7:25 pm AEST

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hey @Determined

thank you so much for checking in with me. do you have a thread where i can follow how you are doing?

this week has been pretty full on but mum was discharged yesterday and is back home. even though i had a bit of a breather it is nice when she is back home. i think it's cause i dont trust the docs and nurses fully re: medication they give her lol

how have you been? you been ok?

xxx

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Bella1978Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:16 pm AEST

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just checking in at @Susana. yes i am good at multitasking when it comes to talking lol

how was your day today?

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Bella1978Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:19 pm AEST

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Hey @Catcakes and @merri

i just wanted to check in with the both of you and see how you both are

mum was discharged from hospital yesterday and is back home, which is nice. just gotta take it one day at a time xx

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Shaz51Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:22 pm AEST

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Hugs @Bella1978

Hello @JeniferWilliams, @Susana xx

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SusanaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:42 pm AEST

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Hi @Bella1978,

Did you have a better day today?

I took mum for her pre-admission interview at the residential respite care facility today. We have booked a six weeks block of respite starting in just over a week's time. This will be her first time in residential respite and so she is a bit anxious in anticipation of the new experience. She said that we want to lock her up..... Thankfully the staff are very understanding and will make an effort top help her settle in... Including giving her a picture version of tge menu (as mum doesn't read English well) and have the daily routine translated into Chinese for her.

Anyway, hope she will actually enjoy it once she's there.....

Hi @Shaz51, @outlander, @Catcakes and @merri. Have we all survived the day so far?

Have a good week everyone!

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Bella1978Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:50 pm AEST

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@Susana

that would have been hard for you no doubt, taking your mum to the residential respite facility. how are you? would have been a tough decision but well done. the hardest decisions we face in life are the ones that actually help us to grow, and discover how strong we really are.

it is great that they accommodate CALD clients - so many different nationalities in australia, and especially with our older generations who migrated here. i do hope she settles in ok and doesnt have too much anxiety. will be a nice break for you knowing she is in good hands.

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SusanaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:59 pm AEST

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Thanks @Bella1978,

I hope so too.
How's your mum today? And you?

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Bella1978Senior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 9:03 pm AEST

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you're welcome @Susana 🙂

im okay, pretty tired tonight. had some anxiety today, i think with mum being back home but, im thinking about what you told me last night and allowing her to do her own thing, make her own decisions, etc so am trying to take a step back. i think once she is home for a few days i will start to feel more at ease again. i need to take things one day at a time and focus on the positives, ie the improvement she has made.

thanks for checking in with me luv

xxx

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SusanaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 9:10 pm AEST

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Well done @Bella1978!

Yeah.... I think anxiety is such a hard beast to beat at times (and I know it too) but you are really taking the steps towards managing it, so good on ya!

Watched a little of the Commonwealth Games last couple of days... It takes hard work and practice to get where they are.... I see practising relaxation and letting go a bit like that too..... Takes time, dedication and persistence and a lot of encouragement when it's tough going. Glad you are in good company here in the forums with fellow team mates!

You go girl!

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