Seeking mutual support from carers

no worries @outlander ... yeah i think we were having 2 conversations last night too lol

i agree - forcing someone to do something can have adverse effects.

yep, i have 2 close friends that come see me at home and visit mum at the same time which is lovely.

as for making doc appts without mum's consent, that wont go down well. the other week she had to see psych and flat out refused. my mama stubborn when she wanna be luv lol.

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does your mum have any friends at all? @Bella1978 or chats to the neighbours or anything? someone coming to see her as 'her friend; could help as well.

sometimes they act like big kids dont they, very stubborn and throws tantrums when they want to

@Susana

thanks for your support. and yes, mums will be mums - even though the roles can be reversed, they are still the 'adult' in the relationship.

i love mum and i saw how she cared for, and loved, her mum, so it is natural for me to do this but it gets so tiring sometimes. but i will take your advice and let mum decide how she wants to do things. she needs to have some control back. and i need some rest! hehe

sending you big hugs back, thanks again for your advice

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@outlander

she has a close friend - they ring each other every other week and see how they are travelling.

my mum's older brother comes to visit often , and mum is quite close with her younger brother. she also has regular phone contact with one of my cousins. i agree though, having a friend to visit her would be ideal. ive tried getting her and her friend to get together for coffee/tea but it still hasn't happenned! she is carer for her husband so she has a bit on her plate too.

anyway, tell me about your day luv. what you been up to?

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oh bugger hopefully in the near furture they can meet up. im sure that would be good for both of them @Bella1978my days been rather bleh. not alot needed to be done, just went and watched sisiter at her school thing today nd then had them home early instead and travelling so much to pick them up an hr after i left.

@outlander

i hope so too - they are very cute when i hear mum on the phone chatting with her.

aaw thats nice of you to see your sister at her school thing. you need a sign on your car saying 'taxi' 😄

oldies can be rather cute. when i went for xrays the other week i was chatting to one and they both care for each other- hubs and wife. i thought they were rather cute.

i am indeed a taxi- i take kids to school pretyt much every morning and pick them up som days and drive them everywhere. @Bella1978 its not mums taxi its sisters taxi.

@outlander

youre such an awesome sister luv!

it certainly shows that you love them to bits. yup, you need a sticker saying 'sister's taxi'!

its only 8pm over here but im shattered, think i'll get myself into bed and try get a good nights sleep. am happy having mum home, but at the same time, feeling anxious. last time she was home was when she wouldn't respond to me. i get visions of that happenning tomorrow morning. cant think like that though. just have to go to bed and take the day tomorrow as it comes, hey?

i hope you get some sleep too luv, thank you for the chat, always love catching up with you at the end of the day

xxx

you are a very wise person @Susana. im gonna hit the sack too now - desperately need some beauty sleep! sweet dreams, and thanks again xxxx