My journey

I am doing as well as I can under the circumstances @Former-Member. There has been a lot going on for me and being off the forum was needed for a few days to avoid further triggers.

This is one way I deal with being on the forum when I am not doing so well - the other is I stick to the thread I am most comfortable being on (Am Not Coping) and occassionally post on one or two others - just like I am doing here now for you

I do this because I want to be here for you and to be able to 'listen' to you. Often when you have been upset by something on the forum it takes some time to feel comfortable on here again - I totally get that and am myself still very wary here but anything you post (within guidelines of course ) I am happy to 'hear' and if something is triggering for me I will tell you nicely - that is the way we learn our boundaries with each other

I hope you have a reasonable day today and I look forward to hearing from you when you are able to

I have been dealing with a similar thing over the last few weeks @Former-Member - my ex 'looked me up' on one of my social media accounts and I had several 'hang-up' phone calls. The phone calls could have been co-incidental but I will never know. He has made no direct contact or made any threats so I can't do anything about it! I am pleased you went to the police but not that you had to @Former-Member - this is very distressing for you so it is no wonder you can't physically calm down. Try controlling your breathing - that helps me feel a little less anxious but it doesn't calm me completely (every little bit helps though).

I can sit with you and 'listen' for as long as you need today - I had a bad night and am spending today on the couch just resting and getting through the day.

sending you tender hugs @Former-Member, @Zoe7 , sitting with you

I hear you @Former-Member and understand your fears too well. It is a very unfair and unjust situation where we are the ones that live with these constant fears because of the actions of others - and the unknown is often harded than what we do know because we are constantly on edge wondering what is to come next

I can completely relate to the shakiness too @Former-Member I have flashbacks that send me into a panic and I can't stop shaking. You are not alone here Hon - I will help you through this the best I can

Men like that need to control everything in their lives @Former-Member. It has nothing to do with love but power and they don't care who they hurt or how we are affected

Sadly they don't even get how much they hurt us - as long as they are 'in charge' they use that to boost their own egos - andthey are flawed inthis thinking but can't see past themselves.

I am so sorry you are dealing with all this too @Former-Member - it is debilitating and so unfair