How do you tell you signifcant other about your MI/Thoughts

If / when my husband is diagnosed, I am going to have a lot of questions for his treatment team. I want to know what has lead him to the behaviours he is invested in .... what function or need are they seeming to meet for him ....

I will want to be available to him to support him emotionally through whatever recovery this will entail, and I imagine there is a sense of shame at the centre of it there somewhere .... but possibly he is carrying shame for someone else ..... more than one other person ..... without realising that this is what it is ..... and then there will be added shame if / when he has to come to terms with the fact that he has been living an unhealthy reality that he mistook for a healthy one.

There is a high risk he will want to lock me out of his situation, but that doesn’t resolve what is, in fact, our situation, even though it wasn’t of my making, and it wasn’t of his conscious making ..... it’s an illness. We are not to blame for such things as accident or illness, or injury inflicted by others ..... we just need to get involved with recovery and support for each other to live with the outcomes.