JacquesSenior Contributor
catching up
hi @hiddenite my angel, here is our new home.
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catching up
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ZahliaSenior Contributor
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Oh @Jacques I'm so sorry to hear this 😞
Is there anything you can do to make yourself feel a little better? Take your mind off it for a bit until you leave? Sounds so stressful for you Jacques.
I need to ask as I am concerned about you, but do you feel safe at the moment?
Take care of yourself
Zahlia
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Hi Jacques can you make an excuse to go for a walk. Then sit in the car. In worried about you if you get any worse you won't be able to drive home.
Remember distract
what have you done in the past that has helped you when things are this bad.
essential oil
insence
a hot shower when you get home
for now breathing is your most important task
Breathe in count to 6 and out slowly counting to 8
Continue until your breathing is back to normal
please Jacques try for me
Remember distract
what have you done in the past that has helped you when things are this bad.
essential oil
insence
a hot shower when you get home
for now breathing is your most important task
Breathe in count to 6 and out slowly counting to 8
Continue until your breathing is back to normal
please Jacques try for me
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Jacques im so sorry I feel helpless know that there is nothing I can do to Help.
Im concerned about your safety because I know what you will have to do when you get home. I wish there was more I could do to help.
Please Jacques stay safe.
Jacques please try to distract when you get home I beg you not to do the other.
Im concerned about your safety because I know what you will have to do when you get home. I wish there was more I could do to help.
Please Jacques stay safe.
Jacques please try to distract when you get home I beg you not to do the other.
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Hi my angel, just sitting here in dubbo having some tea, just left, I have been trying to watch my breathing like you said, I am going to get mum to drive, I just can't do it.
Sorry Karen, I have no choice, I will try to control it.
Karen, their is nothing you could have done, he was going to assault you no matter what, all the things he said was just a way for him to justify what he did to you.
Love and intimacy is a two way street, both parties ha e to be comfortable with it.
I think if you tried to fight him off he would have hurt you badly.
I am sorry you can't release your emotions, I am so close to crying, really struggling.
Will be home in 1 hour, speak to you then
Sorry Karen, I have no choice, I will try to control it.
Karen, their is nothing you could have done, he was going to assault you no matter what, all the things he said was just a way for him to justify what he did to you.
Love and intimacy is a two way street, both parties ha e to be comfortable with it.
I think if you tried to fight him off he would have hurt you badly.
I am sorry you can't release your emotions, I am so close to crying, really struggling.
Will be home in 1 hour, speak to you then
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Hi Jacques im glad your mum is driving I worry about you when you are so overwhelmed and driving.
im so sorry there is nothing I can do to stop that from happening . It breaks my heart.
I will be here for you when you get home.
please stay safe
take care
karen
im so sorry there is nothing I can do to stop that from happening . It breaks my heart.
I will be here for you when you get home.
please stay safe
take care
karen
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Hi My angel,
I am home, exhausted shaking, my chest feels like it is being crushed, i am taking deep breaths, but it is not working, i knew today was not going to be good, but the suprise when i got their tipped me over the edge, i am such a horrible guest Karen, i am so glad you have never seen me, i would so hate you to see me like this.
Karen, you are trying to justify why he assulted you, but what happened to his responsibility, why was he not a good husband? why would he hurt someone he "loves" like that? Karen what you had was not a marrage, being a good wife does not mean being their for all his sexual desires, love, marrage is ment to be two people working together to enjoy life together, to experiance things with your soul mate, he showed you no love, so why would you want to show any love back? Sorry Karen just my thoughts.
I am so sorry for making you feel helpless, i was really shocked when someone else was their, i am feeling so overwhelmed, i know you are too, please speak to me Karen, i will hold your hand for the next 2 weeks, you are already one day down, be gentle with yourself, and remember you always have the option to go home.
miss you my angel,
hugs
Jacques
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Sorry @Zahlia, i had very little mobile reception, i am safe, i am home, and i am trying to get my anxiety and more importantly my depression under control, i have had thoughts of suicide, but they are only thoughts, i promise not to act on them.
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Jacques im so sorry I couldn't be more helpful today.
yes crushing pain in my chest, hard to breathe, shaking , overwhelmed. The flashbacks are just awful.
please stay safe Jacques I worry about you
yes crushing pain in my chest, hard to breathe, shaking , overwhelmed. The flashbacks are just awful.
please stay safe Jacques I worry about you
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Hi Karen,
You where so good to me today, my breathing was all over the place when i was their, when you posted i closed my eyues and tried to watch my breathing, it was so hard because everybody kept following me, i could not get away from them 😞
I know my angel, my heart goes out to you, i so wish i could hold your hand and you and tell you "you are safe now", i so wish i could protect you from these thoughts, feelings and thoughts.
I will stay safe Karen, i promise you, just look after yourself, please talk to me your thougths if you are allowed to, get them out so they don't go round and round in your head.
hugs my angel, thank you for your help today, you are my guardian angel 🙂
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Jacques how are you feeling now, I bet its going to take awhile for you to settle down tonight. Just remember that you are home and are safe.
Jacques I can't tell you how im feeling I don't want to get into any more trouble.
I hate this house I can see the church where we were married and the b and b we stayed at. Apart from the horrendous secrets this house holds for me.
you are more important than me j. I just want you to be ok
Karen
Jacques I can't tell you how im feeling I don't want to get into any more trouble.
I hate this house I can see the church where we were married and the b and b we stayed at. Apart from the horrendous secrets this house holds for me.
you are more important than me j. I just want you to be ok
Karen
