JacquesSenior Contributor
catching up
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catching up
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Oh cool Jacques it must be my turn to return the favor. A shoulder massage for you my fine friend.
yes it is enough to have the girls and you j.
I just want to know why she is so hostile towards me. I've tried all my life to please her in the hope that she would love me. I need to accept that it will never happen.
its hard to let go. I tell my daughters every day how much I love them. My youngest tells me she loves me to the moon and back. Thats so sweet.
my mum tells my youngerst she looks like her dad. I hate it when she does that.
im glad you relaxing j you deserve a break
yes it is enough to have the girls and you j.
I just want to know why she is so hostile towards me. I've tried all my life to please her in the hope that she would love me. I need to accept that it will never happen.
its hard to let go. I tell my daughters every day how much I love them. My youngest tells me she loves me to the moon and back. Thats so sweet.
my mum tells my youngerst she looks like her dad. I hate it when she does that.
im glad you relaxing j you deserve a break
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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Hi Karen - sorry if I'm stepping into the conversation. I just wanted to say that you are not stupid.
You (and many of us!) aren't aware of exactly what is abuse because we're good people. We (you, me, Jacques, other Forum members) are people who can't even fathom treating someone so horrendously, so of course we aren't aware. We shouldn't have to be aware, because we don't deserve abuse.
Sorry if that's a bit of a rant. You just don't deserve the feel that way. You have been through so much already.
You (and many of us!) aren't aware of exactly what is abuse because we're good people. We (you, me, Jacques, other Forum members) are people who can't even fathom treating someone so horrendously, so of course we aren't aware. We shouldn't have to be aware, because we don't deserve abuse.
Sorry if that's a bit of a rant. You just don't deserve the feel that way. You have been through so much already.
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Oh my angel , i would love that, if it is not too much trouble 🙂
Sorry i didn't mean it like you should be greatful, i just ment, sometimes we focus on people we are trying to impress and forget those closest to us.
Karen, you will never be able to please her, it is unfortunate she has chosen this path, but it is her choice, you will have to accept it, but please make sure you do not allow her to treat you in this manner in your own home, you will need to set rules and boundries and make them clear to her, otherwise you will be bullied by her your entire life.
I am so proud you shower your girls with love, they are so lucky to have you and by their lovely words they feel the same about you, i know i feel so special having you in my life, and we have never met!!! 🙂
Your mother is just trying to undermine your self-esteem and self confidence, it is all part of emotional and mental abuse, she is trying to hurt your father through you, it is so sad, she must have a lot of hatred of your father, do you have much to do with your father?
i do hope one day she can overcome her problems and love you as a daughter, but it is her choice to make. you will not be able to force her to love you no matter how much you try.
I am so sorry if this is upsetting Karen, i am just trying to explain it how i see it. i mean no harm, i feel so sad you have to do these things to win your mothers love, life is too short for hatred, i do hope your mother realises this one day.
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Jacques its at the point where I need to be told to help me move on. Or I will be doing things like making the laundry into a room for mum so I do what she wants and not to dissapoint her.
im not upset just trying to figure things out.
I havent seen my dad since I was 11...
I appreciate your opinion Jacques
im not upset just trying to figure things out.
I havent seen my dad since I was 11...
I appreciate your opinion Jacques
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Karen, everything is your choice, you are a smart woman, you are just used to being controlled thats all, you are doing what you have to to keep safe, i understand, but this is your house, with your money, she is always going to put you down, making her a bedroom out of your laundry will just instill in her the control she has over you. please always remember it is your home, you make the rules.
hugs my angel, i wish things where not so tough for you, i so wish iyou had an easy life, with lots of happyness, i know when you move in with your girls you will be happy.
Sorry to hear that Karen, i am sure wherever your father is he does think about you and loves you.
sorry for upsetting you my angel, i don't like to see you being bullied or abused, it breaks my heart to see you so unhappy.
gentle hugs my angel, how about we change the topic?
what are you up to?
i am watching a TV series on my computer and talking to a beautiful, kind and caring woman on a forum 🙂 she is a nice lady.
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Really Jacques I hope she's nice to you if not she will have to answer to me!!
j really im not upset
im watching the tennis. Nothing else on.
j really im not upset
im watching the tennis. Nothing else on.
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Oh my angel, she is the most kind gintle and caring woman, she reminds me so much of you 😄
Ok My angel, i just worry i push things too far, i don't like seeing you unhappy, i like to see you smile and be happy or at least have happy moments.
OOOOh is Federer still playing? shame about Hewitt
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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Yes federer is still playing but not doing to well
im so happy for you j that you have someone to keep you company:)
im so happy for you j that you have someone to keep you company:)
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JacquesSenior Contributor
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Oh no, i think he may be getting to retirement age, starting to get slow, do you watch much tennis? i used to play tennis when i was in highschool, and i used to play golf, i so wish i could play golf again, but i am too scared too 😞
what is happening this weekend my angel? i am hoping to do some cleaning up in the shed, and some time in front of the AC and hoping, really hoping to chat to you 🙂
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hiddeniteSenior Contributor
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I watch a little tennis not too much it helps me relax
tomorrow we are going shopping for my daughters birthday present.
There is a bathroom company having a sale I need a bath, vanity , mirrors , shower bases , bath and the kitchen sink and laundry trough. Might go have a look
tomorrow we are going shopping for my daughters birthday present.
There is a bathroom company having a sale I need a bath, vanity , mirrors , shower bases , bath and the kitchen sink and laundry trough. Might go have a look
