My special place

We lived in POM @eth

dispela place gud to mi

When were you there @Eve7 ? We were pre-independence as Dad was in education, training nationals to train their own teachers. It was my primary school years but really still feels like I'm from there as much as from Oz.

Pre and post independence @eth S1 was born there and H was a lawyer.

Saw my mum today. Went and checked in on her to see if she was ok. I don't know why I bother, she just comes back at me.

Said that I have ruined her life and that the family can never be together again because of me. Said that she doesn't sleep properly because of me and that is it the last thing she thinks about before she goes to sleep and the first thing she thinks about when she wakes up. Even said that she has contemplated suicide just so she doesn't have to go through this anymore.

Said that I should be able to forgive family for what happened and put it aside. Family is more important then what happened.

Then she started saying that I don't say anything back to her.

What am I meant to say? I just can't forget what happened to me. I just can't forgive. If only life was that easy.

Thanks hun @outlander

I have suggested to her that she see a psych before and have even given her some places she could go. She is the type that thinks no one will help her because they are not going through what she is.

Feel like I am in a lose-lose situation. The less time I spend with her the better. Bit hard when she lives in an independent unit on our property.

Umm family 😞😞

You’re going to win @Snowie . She’s the one losing and until she gets help

she will remain lost.

Protect yourself and your kids and stay away from her.

We’re here for you sweetie 💖🤗💖

Thanks @Eve7 @outlander

I think I am just going to stay away from her as much as I can for now.

I can't deal with her.

That is so sad for your Mum @Snowie , and terribly selfish and unfair of her to put the blame squarely on your shoulders. That is really damaging stuff that she is doing to you sweetie. You are right to give her a wide berth as much as possible. I'm glad you have attempted to provide resources for her to seek her own counsel, but it is not your fault if she chooses not to follow up on your advise. Your priority is yourself, your H and your kids. You are one strong lady Snowie.

Emelia 💔💪🌺😊