I really meant feeling close to @Jacques in that response .. but you can join the group hug if you want @PeppiPatty. In that regard I am a 'more the merrier' type. It comes with orphanages and group therapy.
I do try to put real experience but not all bad scary experiences into my replies.
Yes people do rub off on each other and react and relate and over-react and then we hope sort things out and the party keeps going ... but there have always been soft, gentle and well-mannered sides to me.
My feelings about that 14 yr old girl are still pretty raw and distressing ... so I just tell it in bits and pieces... far from resolved ... many consequences about not being allowed to speak to my own flesh and blood without continued interruption whilst also being present daily througout her childhood ... my own daughter doesnt really know me.
I let the older girl have a week off at the beginning of grade 1 once because both girls were flower girls in in my brother in Sydney's wedding ... I got told off by her teacher ...the younger one still in kinder .. but heaps of people including teachers do that .. glad I didnt take it personally ... she was just young and bossy new teacher at the school. I ensured both girls had very stable schooling and knew the place geographically and socially .. it was too big a good experience about fun and family to worry about a week. Mostly they went to school and were fine with reports and adequately popular with party invitations and kids coming over to play.
