Caring for an elderly, dying parent...

@Sahara, your way of telling us about these difficult times is so poised and real. I feel for you in your grief, and am glad you can grieve now, a double grief, for your Mum and Dad and the life changes their passing have wrought. You are a beautiful, caring adult-child of their making.

Very poignant time, as memories come and go, as moments relived. You have done such a great job of everything, you can be proud of yourSelf for your strength and honesty.

May your days grow one on the other in healing and health. Thank you for sharing and including me in these shares, It means a lot.

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Thanks @TAB, I am doing ok. My husband saw that I had been crying and gave me a back rub and I felt a bit better.

I am also drinking some wine, which I know I should not be doing. The other secret thing is that I managed to find some of my old calming meds and now have them at my disposal. If my Sis and Bro knew about this, they would be worried about me. But I have taken this medication before and know all about it and I know it suits me. I am very careful with meds and alcohol. hic.

Thanks, I am having phone counseling with the hospice social worker again in about 10 days time. Is today Tues? I can't keep track of the days. I think she is pretty nice.

I am pretty keen to keep having counselling, as if by any chance I start to fall behind on my PhD studies, then I will have a record of how upset I was at the time. The counsellor I'm sure would give some kind of evidence, in the form of a letter.

I am sorry if you feel alone, @TAB. It can happen to thebest of us. I like talking to you. Feel free to keep writing.

Thanks @MoonGal,

you are nice to say those things. I am stuggling a bit- I'm not exactly strong. It is hard with both parents gone.... even though there were struggles and dysfunction in our family - they were all I knew.

Luckily I have my husband. Actually he just ducked out of the house, so I feel free to cry again.

My dear @Sahara - a beautiful post straight from the heart. I shed a tear with you 😪

I would of done exactly the same - retriving your father's personal things. Too soon.

The house would feel empty but your heart will never be as your mum and dad will be in it keeping it warm and looking over you. Love never dies xx

That is beautiful @TAB. You are so wise

Dear @Sahara You did what you had to do. Thank you for sharing it on here.

Hi @Sahara,

I'm sorry I haven't responded in a while - It's been some time since I've been on the forums. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad.

Sending my deepest sympathies and big hugs your way!