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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Sorry about the rant, have been trying real hard to focus on the positives and hold it together but just had to vent in a space where venting will not make things worse ....

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Darling has had her prn allowance reduced by 2/3 at todays pdoc appointment. Doc had a fit when Intold him how much she was relying on it despite him being the one to tell me thats how much I could give her. The point of the message about her ability to cope was lost in the discussion about how much she was allowed to have...

Only plan moving forward at the moment is to focus on thinking errors and mindfulness. She is all stressed out about that and thinks he is being mean to her...

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@Determined

Sounds as though everyone is high wired at the moment..

outside storm? Inside storms bubbling..

you do not need to apologise for ranting..

ranting on here is the best thing for you at the moment..

would one of the boys check on baby brother ? Or your darling?

Thinking about returning to work would be unsettling you..

you do not know until you try..might be the best outcome..everyone getting more space..

if not plan b?

school is sorted so that is good..

did you check out if your mum could come over once a week and spend some time with darling? She liked that..or is that just not practical..

here I am again with all these ideas and you already know all of this.

re medication prn..process would be concerned where system gets used to them and need to take more..this happens with some people and they have to come off them. Sometimes having withdrawal symptoms..

day at a time?

that is where I am at and a few others on here..

what is the saying..people make plans and God laughs..

keep ranting when you need to

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Thanks @Former-Member

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hey @Determined
Quick check in, have things settled at all?

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hanging on by a thread @Former-Member, get brief glimmers of light but overall the risk of further sh or attempt is high at the moment 😔

How are things for you and mr Darcy ?

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Thank you @Former-Member

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

thinking of you also @Determined thank you again for your support

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hi @Determined
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