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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Could use some of that today @Former-Member

:bomb: here at the moment...

Was tempted to go to church with the children but one of those days when darling can't be left alone 😟

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@Determined 😩

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@Determined

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Well we made it through the day without any major blowups. Achieved only by each hiding in our own corners and limited interaction.

Now I am in the naughty corner again over ???

Just cant win. I wanted to do something nice with the boys and it all turned sour. And then it is a mystery why I am unhappy 😓

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😞 Thinking of you...

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Thanks @Smc @Shaz51 @Former-Member

Things are a little more level this morning

It would seem that the preassure of having an extra for the weekend (S2 had a friend stay) was all too much for Darling to manage 😒

@Former-Member, thanks for the shout out in prayer and support page. Very accurate and appreciated in so many ways.

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big weekend for your darling @Determined, glad she got through it

and you too my friend

Must be hard for S2 , to know this ( If he does ) or to see his mum not coping

but having you there being the balance through it all xx

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While darling seems to be still relatively level the children seem intent on pushing us both over the edge and cause another fight.

Sometimes wonder at their thought process...

They get upset when there is tension in the home but sometimes do everything they can to cause an upset in order to get their way on something. More frustrating given that they are beautiful and little people with big hearts who are equally able to promote harmony in the home.

Rant over for the day...

Dont know why but on a short fuse at the moment and generally weary from walking on eggshells and trying to appease children to keep their mother happy. Looking forward to hiding at work tomorrow.

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Hi @Determined

Checking in Bro

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Has been an ok day today @Former-Member

Dark clouds on the horizon though 🙁

Mum in law has passed another threshold re health.

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