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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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When our neighbor saw I had a bike he mentioned he is keen to go for an extended ride when his bike comes back from the mechanic and doesn't mind taking it easy for a novice ☺ might get to go a bit further afield than mum wants to just yet,

That way I get to sus out some good rides for when mum is ready for a bigger ride 😁

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Thinking it is a good thing I have a counselling appointment this week.

Although darling is oblivious and looking forward to a morning out together tomorrow while the car is having new tyres fitted I am feeling poorly after an incident last night.

Over feeling rejected and unappreciated.

Some recent coments by Darcy on here thread has helped to put things in perspective but still not easy to accept that this is how it is and likley will never change.

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Acceptance of a difficult situation isn't easy @Determined. Thinking of you and hoping that today is better. Glad that you are enjoying your new toy.

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Thanks @soul

There are times when I think I have it sorted and then something happens and it all comes back to the surface. Getting better at recognising negative emotions for what they are but doesn't make them any easier to put aside. Work in progress lol.

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Good morning @Determined

Quick check in.

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Doing ok @Former-Member

Quiet day in today with little man while darling is out visiting. I was going to go out and get some things done but little man wanted to stay with me. Good enough excuse to stay home playing under the fan 😊

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Three course dinner underway for this evening @Determined?

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LoL @Former-Member

Frozen pizza for dinner tonight.

S2 has yr6 grad presentation at school so early dinner before that.

Going to bake some scones to take for contribution to after snacks.

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All jokes aside @Determined, I do hope you are getting in a bit of relaxation Bro

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Very lazy day today @Former-Member, have enjoyed spending it with S3. Far to hot to be outdoors at the moment.

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