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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

I think I get what you mean. 😞 Hope you can get that "special time" with them. Sounds like it's important for all of you.

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I just wanted to explain for the benefit of anyone reading here later that I removed my original content so context of following posts is not lost.

I was feeling a little emotional and on reflection did not explain things very well so thought it better to try again later.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined am concerned that you need some immediate support

@Former-Member are you able to check in

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

I am so sorry @Former-Member did not mean to cause you or anyone any alarm. What I wrote did not make any sense at all. I will be ok, just need a good sleep. Tomorrow is a new day.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

No alarm @Determined feeling your pain and someone better qualified than I am may be able to give you something to help you through the next couple of days. You know I will uphold you in prayer.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

No need to apologise Bro, feeling your pain @Determined alert not alarmed, hoping someone could give you some words or strategies to help you through the next couple of days until you can see your own supports.

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Hi @Determined,

It sounds like things have been really tough. I appreciate that you have posted to let everyone know you are okay, but have sent an email to check in as well.

Take care,

Tortoiseshell

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Take care @Determined. Praying.

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Thank you @Smc & @Former-Member.

And thank you also @Former-Member I have responded to your email.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Just wanted to check in and say I am ok this morning despite not getting any sleep.

Just taking things moment by moment at the moment because that is all I can manage at the moment but I am ok.

Have a gp appointment booked today that was pre booked for another purpose but is timely.

And I was able to get a councilling appointment for Thursday so looking after myself the best I can.

So sorry for the concern I caused last night. It was not intended and feeling embarrassed about that 😕

Hope everyone has a nice day.

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