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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Real estate has told us there is good interest for this weekends open house for both houses. One person is coming from.over 4 hours away to check out our house. That is encouraging.

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Hoping they will fall in love with your place @Determined

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Feeling rejected and alone tonight.

Had a lengthy discussion with S2 after youth group (I into detail in the meeting the needs of children thread) he is really struggling and it is something I need to manage and support him in because would be too much for darling.

Well when we got home I really just needed a hug from my darling for some comfort and to feel loved and appreciated. But out came the ice queen and froze me out. Sometimes it is harder than others but tonight especially it really cut and hurt. Just feel like curling up and crying. Have to stay strong though and pretend all is good or everyone falls apart.

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@Determined sometimes it just hurts

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While things are ok at the moment we started today with another heated discussion.

Seems it is ok for darling to reject me but when I accept that rejection and walk away to do my own thing then that equates to me rejecting her??? As hard as I try I cant understand or accept how that works.

She is in a hole at the because the house has not sold yet despite solid interest. I am hopeful of a contract or at least an offer to negotiate by the end of the week.

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Was agent happy with today's turnout @Determined

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Agent is currently negotiating an offer on mum and dads house @Former-Member and expecting someone to come back to ours during the week for another look. Most people who came through today didn't like the ground because it's not great for gardening.

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Had another couple view our house today.

Wife is in love and sold. Hubby sulking about wanting a bigger shed. So we wait some more.

R/E told the person looking at mum and dads house she was being unreasonable and maybe she was looking at the wrong house for what she could afford. Waiting to see how that goes. She has gone away to think about it.

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@Determined, are you in the Northern NSW/Southern Qld drought affected area? I know even crummy soil can look good when the rain's around, but once things dry out it shows its "true colours".

Soil can be improved, but as a keen grower-of-plants I can understand people wanting it to be ready to go.

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SE QLD @Smc

Definatly dry but not drought affected.

Our block is pretty dry but mum and dad have created an oasis on their block.

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