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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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🤗 Thanks @Determined

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Hello and hugs all...

Good luck tomorrow @Determined I know how hard it is to juggle, so I hear you around the anxiety with being away from home.

Thank you for the tag @Shaz51, my boys not at all good, he's being admitted back to hospital and my Dad's days are numbered so I've layed low of late just trying to assist all round.

Hugs @Faith-and-Hope sorry your world is in turmoil. It's nice to see you.

Take care everyone x

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❤️ @Anastasia ......

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Feeling like my interview went well this morning.

Kind of over qualified which they queried but seemed happy with my explanation about change in priorities and change in career direction to this particular field.

Family being my main priority and this kind of role supports balance I require etc.

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hugs @Determined ❤️

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Feeling a little confident about job.

They have been busy calling referees this afternoon. That has to be a good sign.

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Definitely a good sign @Determined go you ✔️👍🙏

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Hey @Determined, how's the stormy weather going? Seeing a lot in the news. 😕

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Weather has cleared @Smc

River is still up, rising still in some areas but peaking further up stream.

Roads are chaos with main roads blocked (in some places gone) and usual high volumes of holiday traffic. (You would have to be living under a rock to not know and try travel through so ... ? )

Vast area affected. And disheartening to see the crazy risks people are taking.

We will be restricted in movements for a couple of days yet I think.

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We are fortunate to live in an area that is well above flood level. Retained power this time also. Where we were we used to live we would loose power due to water affecting infrastructure. Lots of people around the region without power at the moment.

Waiting now to see what this new system will do now. Hoping it will follow their forecast and stay far enough north not to bring wet weather with it. In the past, significant follow up rain after an event like this results in a bigger event 😬

A few surprises this time round as due to where the rain fell the river levels.didnt follow the typical program. Usually we would have waaaay more notice and time to prepare.

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