Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

you may be on to something there @Smc 😥

Had a nice family day out today.

Went much better than anticipated. Other than a small outburst from darling in transit when I was getting anxious in traffic (I'm not allowed to be anything but smiling and happy) the day went really well. Rarely do we have a family outing go so smoothly so most grateful.

Quick check in @Determined

@Former-Member :nauseated_face:

Things are a bit shaky here at the moment.

Not unusual leading up to back to school but still 😬

Addition to that, S3 has more assessments over the next 2 weeks with recommendations for school next year. Even though we have tests by Q health Q Ed needs to do their own apparently.

Also I have been given extra work shifts which should be a good thing but will have to try and find someone else to cover them because this is causing much distress. Times like this make me feel better about cenrrelink payments. Reality is that I could not work full time as darling would self destruct. She manages and appears to be functional as long as I am here to prop her up. Something as simple as being available to assist with shopping at the desired time is bigger deal than one would like 😔

How are things with you and Mr D.

Think if you both often with your current journey.

sending hugs @Determined

@Former-Member, @Smc , @Faith-and-Hope

It is when times are stressful our partners do not do so well that we realise how much our help is needed @Determined.

Thought you might like this @Determined

Things seem a little more stable here at the moment. Although hanging in that way by a thin thread.

Recieved news this week that S3 does not meet the requirements for special school. Have a meeting with a different school to see how they can support him.

I am choosing to see this as a positive thing. Darling however is quite anxious about his ability to cope in main stream system and not at all happy with the news. Bracing myself for some emotional discussions.

I don't believe bubble wrapping is the right approach as in my opinion that has the potential to limit opportunities.

@Determined, we had a friend whose daughter would have met the special school requirements, but she chose to send her to a supportive primary school for the first few years. As everyone got older, and the mental-age gap increased, it got to the point where she decided a special school would be more beneficial, and I believe it did work out well. Her daughter made some good friends there. So it doesn't have to be one-or-the-other for all time.

I assume you'd know what I mean about the mental-age gap? If a child is 20 percentile points behind their age cohort, that means when they're 5 years old, they're one year behind the others, which is usually no biggie. But by the time they get to 10 years old, they're two years behind, which is more of an issue.