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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

On a more positive note.

I finally have a date for first app with a new councillor... Still more than 6 weeks away but at least I have a date. And a defined idea of what I need from the sessions.

Previous sessions have always ended up been about staying afloat and never an opportunity to deal with past trauma. Unresolved grief or other key barriers.

So here's hoping this round can be different.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Uni kicked off for the year this week and already I feel overwhelmed. Was asked if I could do an extra day of work.

Ummm. No sorry. Do that and I would sink like last semester. Going to have to practice saying NO! on so many levels.

But then if centrelink screws me over I may need all the extra work I can get .😫

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I hope so @Determined ....

I feel the same way about D2 and her siblings, and with what has happened to her dad, giving D2 the right sort of support for her adult life is so important. Some people think babysitting is all she needs, and keeping her happy. Not even close .....

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hearing you re the babysitting @Faith-and-Hope

That approach does little for quality of life into the future.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

So when NDIS LAC called last week to say 'good news, your new plan is approved'

She failed to mention that funding had been cut by 2/3 And would not even cover services currently acceded never mind supports reccomended by extensive assessments carried out (at NDIS expense).

So now I have to manage a review process for this as well as the centrelink audit.

And anticipating this semester at uni will be intense.

Would love to be able to run away and hide atm.

Rant over. 😴🤪🤮

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"Aaaargh" kind of covers it @Determined?

Hope the review process treats you kindly. 😞

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Would be handy if I actually knew what the review process intailed @Smc

But it seems as though they juat look at it again without any further input from us.

Whatever.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

He is making good progress with the supports he has been accessing but it looks like we will have to cut back.

And of course because he has absolutely no idea about $ he will not understand why.

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Hope things go ok with reviews* @Determined

*Edited post 😁

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@Determined

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