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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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And no one hurt so most grateful for that.

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@Determined

Hoping you are able to cope OK, it is not easy. 🙏🙏🙏

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Thanks @Former-Member

Initally I went into panic mode until one of the ladies got the phone from darling and explained to me the plan of driving her home and that she was in good hands. Then I kind of went into fix it mode and on auto. Tomorrow will be the test .usually 24 - 48 hours after an event is when things catch up with me.

🙏 are much appreciated .

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The "cope now, pay later" pattern is a familiar one @Determined. Hope you can schedule a couple of easy days ahead for you? At least it's the weekend now. Glad all are OK.

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All good so far this morning. All weary but no big issues from yesterday's excitment.

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@Determined

Saw this and thought of you

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Lol @Former-Member

I used to have that as the background pic on my computer.

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I went for a short ride yesterday and it was a bit like that.

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Well after an up.and down couple.of days that were more down than up things are still holding steady here.

I was a bit concerned about darling this morning but she was invited and went out to my mum's for the day. I think if she had declined mum would have come here. So grateful for that support. Being out of the house was defiantly better than spending the day hiding in bed.

Car is at the panel shop. ✅

The reckon it is fixable ✅✅

I get to ride my bike more in the meantime as darling is driving my usual driver ✅✅✅

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I am really struggling with post event fatigue as is typical but walking to work this morning helped I believe so going to continue to make the effort to do that and stay on top of things.

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