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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Feeling miserable tonight.

We have family photos booked tomorrow and right now I am hoping it buckets down rain so it is postponed again. Not sure I have the capacity to smile and pretend we are one big happy family.

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Yikes @Determined if I recall rightly, you mentioned some comments around some previous photos weren't overly complementary ... perhaps rather than praying for rain, we pray for something that will lift your spirits. 😀

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hugs @Determined

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I don't think we've ever had a formal family photo. Usually we put the camera on a timer, do a couple of regular group photos followed by a "silly" photo or two, where we all make faces or do bunny ears.

But I'll go along with @Former-Member, and hope tomorrow has some genuine happy in it for the camera to capture.

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@Determined

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Lol @Former-Member

Unfortunately blue sky's here so no escape.

Have managed to mow front yard and be in the hedge this morning and mow 1/2 of the back yard.

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How did the Cheshire Cat impersonation go today @Determined

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Survived the photo shoot @Former-Member

Just all feels a bit fake atm pretending to be a big happy family when we are not.

S3 had a blast and was being so cute. Untill that is S1 decided it would be a good time to mess with him and upset him. That was right at the end though so we should get some nice photos out of it.

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@Determined

Is there any particular way I can specifically encourage you Bro?

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@Former-Member sharing the way you do has been a big encouragement for me. Sometimes challenging (in a positive way) but encouraging and much appreciated.

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