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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Darling managed the drive down and back well which I am hoping will be a confidence boost for her. And the children were on perfect behavior so that made for a pleasant day.

If we dont manage our morning (push)bike ride I am hoping darling and I can go for a ride after lunch. Darling is starting to get obsessed about her weight so hoping getting into some exercise will help with this. Just need to keep some balance 😬 . I am al little concerned that once she gets back into it OCD will kick in and it will be back to 50+km daily . Different circle of influence now sp hopefully this will make a positive difference.

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This is one section of road we traveled today found the pic on a cycling forum. Aparently incline is over 15%.

Lots of rainforest sections. I love the freshness of the air and the smells. Something missed in a car.

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Thanks @Shaz51

Hi everyone, so nice to be able to connect with others. I do feel alone at times in a space I don’t fully understand, but I’m trying to give my partner the support I believe she needs.

taking one day at a time right now. This journey isn’t easy

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one day at a time is best @RainbowUnicorn

Hello @Determined, @Smc, @Former-Member

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How stupid am I

Had an app this morning (script review) and forgot to mention some other important concerns rather spent the time discussing how darling is coping with mil.

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Take heart that you're not the only one here who's done that @Determined! We've had those "facepalm" moments walking out the door of a doctors' clinc.

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LoL @Smc

I need to write things down before going in I think. At least main reason for the app was addressed.

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And don't forget to write a note reminding you to write a note! 😛

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I like to have a list on hand if there is more than one thing to discuss with doc @Determined. Often I write them on a note attached to appt card.

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Trust today has otherwise gone ok @Determined

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