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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This thread is a follow on (or starting over) from my previous thread Caring for a wife with borderline personality disorder – sequel to diary of wife's hospital stay, I wanted to start over and in order to leave all the trauma and negativity of last year behind me and start fresh.

Those of you who have been following our family journey will know that after a number of hospital admissions for my darling I was encouraged by my councillor to implement some boundaries (lovingly implemented guidelines, not rules to be enforced) as well as self-care for myself as what we were doing was clearly not working and my health was /still is being affected.

Well after a smoother than expected start the boundaries and self-care were forgotten with my darling having a complete melt down and further lengthy hospital admissions due to high risk of self harm and a genuine attempt to leave us. The last 6 months particularly have been quite difficult for us all. S2 particularly had a lot of issues at school during this time and is currently seeing a councillor.

The purpose of this new thread is to again document our journey of healing, working on implemented boundaries and commitment to self care. As with the previous thread this is so that I can have a visual plan for myself with some accountability to follow through with plans in place and in the hope that it may help others in similar situations to ours. And so that I can track our progress. This was especially helpful in the last thread leading up to Christmas when I was feeling down about our current position to review what I had written and see just how far we have come.

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Hi @Learning18 I support my wife who lives with bpd,

This is a thread where I talk about our journey, hoping it may be helpful for you.

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Big + on the self care front today as I am off on a motorcycle adventure with my mum that will take most of the day. Have been looking forward to this for a while 😀

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9 hours and just over 200km today 😊

Should have been 8 hours but took a wrong turn for senic detour.

I was amazed at how much more aware of my surroundings I was riding the bike than in a car. Particularly all of the farm smells riding through the rural areas but also the scenery. 8 will need to make more effort on fluid intake in future though.

It was quite relaxing though so a self care win I say.

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Ah, it's been too long since I've been on a bike. 🙂 I know what you mean about being more aware. It's good not being shut in a metal and glass box.
I'd imagine a convertable might give a similar-ish experience, but without the kinetic thing of moving with the bike.

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@Smc I love the feeling of accelerating up a steep incline (sticking within posted speed limits of course) particularly the twisty bit I mentioned in the other thread.

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@Determined, around Melbourne, the Black Spur is the favoured uphill twisty ride. The first time Hubby (then boyfriend...) took me out there, it was a hard call as to whether I was enjoying the ride or the scenery more. One advantage of pillion is that you can tilt your head back to look at the tall trees stretching over the road.

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What beautiful scenery @Smc, thank you for sharing

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Just looked at some videos of that road @Smc. Lovely. We are blessed with roads like that not far from where we live. Mum and I were both getting excited by all the options as we rode along making notes for which way we could go next time.

Bonus is when darling was listening to us discussing our ride she now seems a little interested in going for a ride with me when I am legal for pillion 😀 (12 months and Counting) it will be nice if she will one day come with me .

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@Determined, that would be great. 🙂 Has she gone pillion before?

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Never been on a motorbike to my knowledge @Smc.

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