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My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

Hi everyone ! I am very new to all of this. My wife suffered through a terrible abusive childhood and neglected adolescent years. Her complex PTSD symtoms have started with mood swings, short tempered and in the last few years progressed into agoraphobia, severe stress, suicidal thoughts and complex PTSD.

She is my hero because she recognised it early and sought help, still managing our home and our four girls as best as she could until it became really bad. In the last year she underwent treatment twice in a clinic for a few weeks at a time, which helped her a lot. She sees her psychiatrist as regular as possible.

As the sole provider working FIFO it is hard to be there for her and give her the support she needs. When I am at home I find myself in a situation where my reactions are none helpful or supportive. I have barely any knowledge of what she is going through nor do I fully comprehend it.

So many times I feel like a child in the dark. It's hard to find any good literature for me to read and learn about it.

I hope to find other husbands out here in the hope of sharing experiences and how they dealt with their partners' PTSD.

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This is my first post on this forum. My situation is similar to yours. I hope to both give and take from these forums. You are not alone. Thankyou for sharing.

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Re: My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

Hello Janna,
Your reply is enlightening and I will need to investigate both C-PTSD and blueknot. My wife has been struggling with PTSD for 21 years, due to childhood traumas.

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Hi @Gettingolder and welcome to the forums. I hope you find the right treatment for your wife as there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully, the Blueknot Foundation can help as well.

All the best

Janna ❤️

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Hello @Gettingolder and welcome to the forum

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Re: My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

Welcome to the forums @Gettingolder. I hope you find the forums a helpful and supportive place to be 🙂

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Re: My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

Hey @Cracked1973
Checking in to see how you are going?

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Re: My wife, my hero and Complex PTSD

Hi everyone !

Welcome to the forum @Gettingolder ! Sorry for my late response but I have been away at work as well as busy with more problems.

Any mental health condition in a persons live does not only affect the person going through it, but also family and friends. My wife is getting better in small steps(hurray !).Sadly the effects of a troubled relationship have started to come down onto my daughter(13) in the form of SH and worse. More later !

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You are an amazing man for putting your wife first and going the extra mile to try to understand. I also have C-PTSD from a traumatic childhood. Remember that her actions have very little to do with the way she feels about you and everything to do with how she feels about herself. I healed myself with Buddhism, meditation, becoming aware of myself and most importantly, detaching from the horrible things people made me believe about myself and give those characteristics to the people they belong to. To understand hurt people, hurt people. For me, it wasn't important at all that anyone ever DID anything to make me feel better...it was EVERYTHING to me to finally have someone just listen, acknowledge my feelings, act as if my thoughts and feelings are valid and important. The more she understands and loves herself, the more she will be able to give that to you...but she cannot give you love she doesn't first have with self.

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How are you going @Cracked73

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Hi @Cracked73

How are things?

@David16also has a wife with cPTSD and was hoping to get some tips.

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