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i was reciently sexually assaulted mid december last year by my boss. I have reported it to police and they are working on the case. The reason im here is to get others stories on how they have coped through it as I am really finding it hard to deal with and have restless nights and really paranoid to be around males that I do not know but with this i am losing some friends because they dont understand why i am having trouble being around them. please share stories and i am more then welcome to open up about what i am going through
@Zoe7i am still having my good and bad days and still having restless nights but still kinda hurts to talk to people face to face about it but i know i have to. will be hearing back from the dective soon to see wha we can do to go fuirther
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Not at all surprising @gymgirl240 Sometimes the uncertainty of what is happening places extra pressure on you also - that is the bad days. Hold on to the good days and remember that you have done nothing wrong and that this happened TO you but doesn't define who you are. You really are incredibly brave @gymgirl240
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gymgirl240Senior Contributor
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@Zoe7thank you, yeah its hard to be brave from time to time but just cannot wait to see this person behind bars as once he is there i know i might feel a bit better knowing he is locked up
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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well said @Zoe7 ' what happened to you doesnt define you'
im glad you have your gp tomorrow @gymgirl240 hopefully they can sort something out for you. hopefully your case is done quickly and doesnt get dragged out.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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We often put on a 'brave face' even when we are not feeling that way @gymgirl240 - it is a self-protection mechanism. We don't want others to know or think any differently of us - that is why what you are doing is so brave - you are facing it 'head-on', taking action and walking thepath many cannot - that is more than brave When you are having those bad days - remember this and know that your inner strength is guiding you through this
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gymgirl240Senior Contributor
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@Zoe7thank you so much for your support
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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That is quite okay @gymgirl240 - not easy at all to do what you are doing after going through what you have - but your maturity and resilience in dealing with all this is shining through - very impressive in-fact You are definitely a strong person and when you feel yourself 'falling' remind yourself of that
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gymgirl240Senior Contributor
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@Zoe7zoe you are the best and yeah i will be
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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WTG @gymgirl240 - you are most welcome to tag me anytime - and keep me updated if you like
(Sometimes it takes me a while to get back to people but I always do eventually )
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Sometimes the uncertainty of what is happening places extra pressure on you also - that is the bad days. Hold on to the good days and remember that you have done nothing wrong and that this happened TO you but doesn't define who you are. You really are incredibly brave 
When you are having those bad days - remember this and know that your inner strength is guiding you through this 
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