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@Lemonjuice wrote:
For me, I don't want to be destracted from my suicidal thoughts, I can get irritable if distracted from my su thoughts. One therapist suggested that my suicidal ideation was a way of escaping my predicament in life. There's a level where thinking about suicide is comforting but then it can turn into a scary obsession. The only thing that I know that will work to interrupt it is the threat of hospital. I find safety plans irritating because I don't like being controlled or trapped...god knows, my whole existence is being controlled and trapped, I am not going to have my one escape also controlled and trapped too.
Hi @Lemonjuice,
What you describe here is the approach that is taken in DBT, and the one which I like. I agree with what your therapist said; suicidal ideation can be a way of escaping the predicament of life. Thoughts of suicide are just thoughts - they can't hurt us. I find it very calming at times to daydream about suiciding. However, I only do it when I'm lying on my bed or on the floor, and I won't get up until the intense urges pass. Thoughts are just thoughts. I find it much more helpful to ride out the waves of suicidal ideation rather than pushing them away with distraction.
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