soul’s year of recovery

Thanks @Former-Member ..... I know from what you have written in the past you had a really tough time with your ex as well.

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@soul

Glad you you are glad for the little things. Your local area sounds great.

Like @Bunniekins I love it when I make porridge. I make it better than mother ever bothered, and its yum and wholesome and like gps. I vary it and eat it in homage to my father. One of my wierd quirks.

Ahhh dear the X

@Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope

I see ... the discard and the devaluation. Thats what happened to me while I was in marriage. after a year! And I stayed for 16!

Women I pray we can finally anchor ourselves with a Warrior Woman. In the sense of perservering despite those challenges and thriving.

@Faith-and-Hope - you have been through the wringer but I'm sure that you will come through it with your dignity in tact. I was married to a narcissistic and vindictive person.I left the marriage with basically nothing and am now building myself up again.

The Christmas before last, I asked my son who was living with his father, if the little personalised tree decorations were still around. These were ones that I had especially ordered and also ones that the kids had made. My son found them and gave them to me. The ex discovered this and in a rage, messaged me with threats and vile language. Then when I didn't reply, he sent me photo after photo of everything he located from the kids' childhood as he destroyed the items. They meant nothing to him but didn't want me to have them ever. It didn't warrant a response and I have blocked all contact.

He can't take away my memories nor destroy the beautiful relationships that I have with my kids. At get togethers, he is never mentioned and my daughter has not seen or heard from him in years. He too had a secret girlfriend who he had a child with. He was 40 at the time and she was 19. Toxic people have no place in my life.

Thank goodness that your ex is far away from you now. I didn't go through the legal pathways. It can be a long and expensive process and one that would cause me a lot of distress. I just cut my losses and chose to live my life on my terms.

I hope that you can find some happiness because you deserve it. You are a wonderful person.

I am so sorry to hear what you went through @soul ...... 😔🥲 ..... and I can relate in many ways.

There are things I have to stand and fight for.

@Zoe7 @Appleblossom @Former-Member @Former-Member @Determined @MDT @Bunniekins @Shaz51 @outlander

Oh @soul that is just awful - I am so sorry you were put through so much and all just for the sake of hurting you and no other reason - that is neither right nor fair and my heart goes out to you

@Faith-and-Hope

@MDT - it's difficult when your colleagues are bullies. It makes them think that they are powerful crushing others. Try not to take it personally. You know your worth.

That sucks @Faith-and-Hope. Financially I got out of the relationship a lot worse off. All sorts of deceit and shady dealings. I guess I just had to let these things go, get up, dust myself off and keep going. You will too for the sake of your kids. They will respect you for your integrity and selflessness.

Thanks @Zoe7 - I hope you're doing okay. I'm thinking that your pets are still a great support in your life. I'm definitely going to be getting another dog when I retire. Might not be for a while but am grateful that I am in good health.

I have to break the debt bond first @soul .

That must be very stressful @Faith-and-Hope. I know that these things can string out for a long time and I'm sure it's his aim to make it as painful as possible out of spite. Hope that you are able to practise some self care during this process.