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soul’s year of recovery

soul’s year of recovery

Hi - many of you on the forums know me. Thought it might be time to start a new thread.

2017 was an especially awful year for me. I escaped an extremely violent and abusive relationship fleeing the country where I was living and returning to Australia. My mother passed away and I was ostracised from my family. And lastly, just when I thought I was getting my act together and was on holiday, I sustained an injury from an accident which has left me somewhat incapacitated.

I have found a lot of support here and will continue to lean on those who I have come to know as friends. So come along with me as I try to make this year an improvement on last @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Former-Member @utopia @Bunniekins @Former-Member @Determined @outlander @CheerBear @Maggie @TAB @Sans911 @Former-Member @Former-Member @frog @Former-Member @Bimby2 @Appleblossom and anyone else who has followed my story.

When the clock struck 12 on New Year’s Eve, I made a few resolutions and goals in various areas of my life for the coming year. One thing I wanted to do was to regain was my physical fitness. I had been feeling so strong and well before my accident. I had been walking/jogging for at least 10kms each day and going to yoga sessions seven times a week. After my shattered shoulder and nerve damage through my arm, Yoga is out and I was fortunately able to put my membership on hold. I started walking again this past week and can manage 2kms. My arm is still in a sling and feels as heavy as lead and I can’t manage walking the dog yet. I am trying to be as independent as I can be and have seen progress. At least I can shower myself now. I miss being able to do the things I used to - like driving and even hanging out the washing.

Today was my Mum’s birthday so that was really hard. The kids and I went to the park where her ashes were scattered - the rose bush sporting a single feeble looking bloom. Afterwards, we had lunch together so that was nice.

I’ve had a break from medical stuff over the Christmas New Year period but the appointments start back tomorrow with an EMG where they will put electrodes on me and give me electric shocks to assess the nerve damage. Not really my idea of fun.

Anyway - onwards and upwards. That’s the plan in any case.

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@soul Hi soul 😄 so you have a wonderful fella in your life 🙂 how fantastic is that! I am very happy for you. I have been wondering where you have been and now I know you have better things to occupy yourself with .

I think you are doing the right thing with your ex just ignore. He may never get the hint but that's okay that is not your problem. It would be nice to get a boarder in for not only finances but company ... don't give up I am sure you will a nice, respectful one even with a animal 🙂

Good on you for walking every day and doing your yoga 5 days a week 😄 Very disciplined of you, I have started qi gong which I love. I just follow it off various you tub sites and find it stimulating and restful at the same time 🙂

Happy to hear the kids are doing well and that your physical ailments aren't giving you too much grief. Sorry to hear about nasty sibs but what can you do family is family.

Stay in touch jellyfish you were missed :). Love greenpea xxx

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You have definitely got a lot in your life to be happy about now @soul I am so pleased this new relationship is based on mutual respect and that you can share things with him. I hope your ex stops those emails soon though - you deserve to be free of that annoyance

Sorry that you still have pain in your shoulder and hand - often these things we 'get used to' as time goes on but it doesn't make it any less uncomfortable. I am still doing twice weekly hydrotherapy sessions for my back and although it is much better there is still the occasional twinge of pain - especially when I sit for too long.

I am so pleased that your mental state has improved - it makes such a difference in handling the physical pain - and vice versa. It is great to hear that you are feeling more positive within yourself - that is a huge win @soul

Keep up the positive attitude and keep us filled in on how it is all going - it is so lovely to hear that life is better for you Hon

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@soul it is so good to hear from you I still think of you often and wonder how you are going.

Glad things are going ok for you.

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nice to hear things are going well @soul
good to see you back here

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Beautiful spring photos @soul

Glad to "see" you and know you are doing well with children, man and exercise.

I am not sure about boarding either.

Take Care

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Saw some laughter yoga on the news tonight and thought of you @soul

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hi @soul its been quite a while since ive seen you around..
how are you going?
hoping things arent to rough

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hello @soul , hope you are ok my friend , thinking of you lots

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@Faith-and-Hope @Darcy @Shaz51 @lapses @utopia @greenpea @-Enigma- @Determined @outlander @CheerBear @Maggie @TAB @Bimby2 @Appleblossom @Bubbles3 @Hamsolo01 @Adge @Ant7 @Phoenix_Rising @Snowie @mohill @Niqueeta @SunShower @eth @Sophia1 @Snowie @Sans911 @frog @lisajane @Mazarita @Zoe7 and anyone else following my story.

I still get email notifications from this forum and saw the shoutout from @Faith-and Hope the other day. With this Easter break, I will make the effort to reply. I frequently think of many of you and hope that your lives are filled with at least some joy if not a lot. It's been quite some time since I posted and a lot has happened since then.

There's a school of thought that everything that has happened leads you to where you are now. I would rather that some of the awful stuff hadn't occurred at all but everyday I wake up grateful for my present life and that is where I choose to focus.


I am still with the wonderful man I met three years ago and now we share a home together. We are enjoying life; sharing new experiences and daily life together. I have gone back to fulltime work which is both challenging and rewarding. It takes up a lot of my energy and the days are long. My kids continue to be an enormous source of happiness for me and I see them both regularly.

Life has its ups and downs for me with past events being triggered from time to time but I feel fortunate and perhaps a bit guilty knowing that so many of you may still be struggling for whatever reason. I wish you all the best and would love to know how things have been going.

One of my late mother's favourite sayings was that "All things must pass" and whether they be happy or sad times - indeed they do. Nothing stays the same and when we can't do anything about our circumstances, the best we can do is to change the way we view them. Stay safe and be hopeful. Love to you all xoxo.

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ohhhhh @soul , how wonderful to see you my awesome friend and thanks for the update

Yes my mum says "it will Pass " all the time

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