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soul’s year of recovery

soul’s year of recovery

Hi - many of you on the forums know me. Thought it might be time to start a new thread.

2017 was an especially awful year for me. I escaped an extremely violent and abusive relationship fleeing the country where I was living and returning to Australia. My mother passed away and I was ostracised from my family. And lastly, just when I thought I was getting my act together and was on holiday, I sustained an injury from an accident which has left me somewhat incapacitated.

I have found a lot of support here and will continue to lean on those who I have come to know as friends. So come along with me as I try to make this year an improvement on last @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Former-Member @utopia @Bunniekins @Former-Member @Determined @outlander @CheerBear @Maggie @TAB @Sans911 @Former-Member @Former-Member @frog @Former-Member @Bimby2 @Appleblossom and anyone else who has followed my story.

When the clock struck 12 on New Year’s Eve, I made a few resolutions and goals in various areas of my life for the coming year. One thing I wanted to do was to regain was my physical fitness. I had been feeling so strong and well before my accident. I had been walking/jogging for at least 10kms each day and going to yoga sessions seven times a week. After my shattered shoulder and nerve damage through my arm, Yoga is out and I was fortunately able to put my membership on hold. I started walking again this past week and can manage 2kms. My arm is still in a sling and feels as heavy as lead and I can’t manage walking the dog yet. I am trying to be as independent as I can be and have seen progress. At least I can shower myself now. I miss being able to do the things I used to - like driving and even hanging out the washing.

Today was my Mum’s birthday so that was really hard. The kids and I went to the park where her ashes were scattered - the rose bush sporting a single feeble looking bloom. Afterwards, we had lunch together so that was nice.

I’ve had a break from medical stuff over the Christmas New Year period but the appointments start back tomorrow with an EMG where they will put electrodes on me and give me electric shocks to assess the nerve damage. Not really my idea of fun.

Anyway - onwards and upwards. That’s the plan in any case.

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Oh @soul this is such a devastating blow. Words are so hard to express the feeling I have right now, you have lost your baby and best friend. Grief is a difficult journey. Walking with you for as long as it takes. 💞💞

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@soul

So sorry to read your sad news, dont know what to say but thinking of you and my heart goes out to you 😟

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Oh no .. @soul my special of special one passed 11 years ago now. Sorry

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So sorry for your loss @soul I know the connection with animals can be profound. I feel sad with you.

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@soul

The tears need to flow..

loss of a loved one is agonising pain...

you are still grieving from previous loss..

think of your fur baby as still helping you with your grieving as before...still with you inside...that will never change..

stay inside...walking not important yet...

you will know when you need to get out..then you go out.. You need not make plans about any of it..what you want to do will just come to you

💜

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@soul I'm sorry to hear about losing your mate. I remember when I lost my pet dog a couple of years back. It was similar to what you've said there because it was only a matter of days between when he was okay then sick and had to go. I simply broke down when I had to put his old smelly mat out. But always remember the good memories and the companionship you had. Dogs are loyal and they love their owners. I imagine your dog was more concerned about you because that's how loyal they are 🙂

I'm with you on that @soul so all the best my friend @soul 🤗 hug for you

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Thinking of you @soul 💙💛💚

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I agree entirely @Sophia1 @soul ....

.....and hello @MDT ....

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Thanks for your kind messages @Faith-and-Hope @Sophia1 @outlander @Former-Member @Appleblossom @utopia @Sans911@eth @Former-Member @Snowie @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Maggie @Determined @TAB @frog @MDT

I am still struggling over the loss of my beloved dog. I believe that she was intuitive enough to wait until I had found some happiness in my life before she left so I wouldn't be quite so alone.

I went out yesterday and it was so hard to drive past the vet where she took her last breath and then come back to an empty house. It is too quiet here and I miss all the little rituals we had and her adorable quirky habits.

I appreciate every moment I spent with her but wish I had a longer time to enjoy her company.

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Remember that this time of mourning is your absolute right. DO not let anyone take it from you. Your dog was part of your family, as it should be. The tears that you cry are natural beautiful tears for a wonderful companion. I will send you all of the comforting thoughts I can. Just know that your feelings toward your dog are perfectly natural and right. If you didn't feel the way you feel, THEN there would be something strange or wrong, your feelings of loss demonstrate that you are a good person.

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