outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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rough time
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Re: rough time
Maybe start with something like this @outlander...
"I have noticed that your payment is now 5 weeks in arrears. Unfortunately I cannot cover the costs to feed your horse unless your payments are made. I would love to continue to take care of your horse however I cannot do so if I do not have the funds available to buy feed. It would be sad for me to have to stop providing this service to you but it cannot continue if I am not being paid. I have significanlty reduced my costs over time to help you out with the costs however it is now costing me more than the service I am providing. I do hope that you can find a way to settle the present arrears quickly and that going forward payments can be made on a more timely basis'
That is probably too much to say but if it was put in a formal letter to the client then both you and her have a written acknowledgement of where you are sitting.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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ok that sounds good @Zoe7 ill give it ago, she ignored the last 2 msgs i sent so maybe this one she will respond to.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Goodluck @outlander 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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oh gosh
it is sent
it is sent
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Now you need to wait Hon - that is the hard part now to see what the response will be @outlander Hopefully the client will see that this situation is serious now and will pay. There is always the possibility that they will not pay and cease using you too but then the pressure is off you anyway. Stay strong Hon - you need all the courage you have to deal ith this one 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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it is really hard @Zoe7 this really sucks! its not the work it really is the fact that im having more out of pocket expenses than what im being paid and that definently isnt helping my financial issues at the moment
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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That is why if she stops using you to feed the horse then you will actually be better off - and if she pays you then that is a bonus right now - so it really is a win-win for you either way @outlander That will then give you more time also to do other things - so an even bigger win Hon.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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im so nervous @Zoe7 i can see ill be better off whichever way this goes but i dont like this sort of situation at all.
i have tried making excuses for her but it just keeps happening.
i have tried making excuses for her but it just keeps happening.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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It is natural to be nervous when faced with such a position Hon - youhave done a really brave thing here - so not let that pass without acknowledging it - now the waiting begins and that is even harder. This could be a defining moment for you though - one you look back upon and say 'Yes - I did that - I stood up for myself" and that is super positive. Whatever way this goes Hon you have showed great courage to stand up for yourself - that also shows how well you are progressing yourself and how far you have actually come in this journey we call life.
@outlander I am very proud of you
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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how are you both going today anyway? @Sans911 @Zoe7
whatve you both been up to?
whatve you both been up to?
