outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander@Zoe7 as Zoe7 said it has to be done and we all know you can do this. You are a very capable woman and if they don't want to pay the service stops but keep it polite I am sure there will be room of negotiation and they may feel embarrassed about the whole thing if they are short of cash. It happens to everyone at some stage some people don't handle it in the right way unfortunately.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Bunniekins
she has been a client on and off for the past yr or 2 but never anything long term just a day or 2 here and there.
no she has been like this for a while like instead of paying 2 weeks and horse feed she will just pay one week and for horse feed even though shes behind 2 or 3 weeks (but ive let it slide) or will diliver horse feed and ignore any msgs i send my fees are really cheap compared to others and i even reduced it for her. ive really only asked for petrol fees . installments- its usually weekly/fortnightly payments
im kinda stuck in a tight spot because i worry itll also go against my reputation too. but its causing me even more financial stress
she has been a client on and off for the past yr or 2 but never anything long term just a day or 2 here and there.
no she has been like this for a while like instead of paying 2 weeks and horse feed she will just pay one week and for horse feed even though shes behind 2 or 3 weeks (but ive let it slide) or will diliver horse feed and ignore any msgs i send my fees are really cheap compared to others and i even reduced it for her. ive really only asked for petrol fees . installments- its usually weekly/fortnightly payments
im kinda stuck in a tight spot because i worry itll also go against my reputation too. but its causing me even more financial stress
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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This is not about youor reputation @outlander it is about basic survival and if she can't pay you don't deliver the service - let her find someone else that will do the same for her as you do and see how they deal with it - I would suggest that no-one would give her the same reduced rates or service you do and that she would be hard pressed to find someone else - so be strong and take a tough stance here - you deserve to be paid for the service you provide.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Zoe7 above msg
i cant say exactly what my msgs are but in the previous times they have been polite
such as HI ________
I have noticed your last payment was on ______(date), so __ weeks ago. can you please make a payment or we can see about alternative arrangements better suited to you
this is very similar to my previous msgs as well and its either ignored or cut short or worked around like feed delieveries
i cant say exactly what my msgs are but in the previous times they have been polite
such as HI ________
I have noticed your last payment was on ______(date), so __ weeks ago. can you please make a payment or we can see about alternative arrangements better suited to you
this is very similar to my previous msgs as well and its either ignored or cut short or worked around like feed delieveries
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander I know you need this like a hole in the head so to speak. Okay she is clearly taking advantage of you which is not on and you have to halt the service. It won't be easy but you don't need that stress in your life when you have so many things going on atm. If word gets out that you are doing her favours like that what will the other clients think .... be polite but just say you have been unwell and need to cut down on your services and have to let her go.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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what would you guys suggest i say this time?
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I agree with @Bunniekins here @outlander You need to make it very clear that unless payments are made in full for the service you are providing that you will have to cease you service to her. She may be angry with this but remember those emotions are hers to carry and not yours - at the end of the day if you do not have to spend your own money on feed and petrol then you are not losing out on anything - you may infact be gaining as you are not constantly out of pocket yourself.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thats true @Bunniekins @Zoe7
any ideas on what to say? i dont want to come across as horrible but i know i cant let this keep happening.
any ideas on what to say? i dont want to come across as horrible but i know i cant let this keep happening.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
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@outlander sweetheart you just politely say that you can no longer deliver the service because you have not been paid. You don't have to be rude or anything or you can say a little white lie that you are too unwell to do her horse as you have to cut down (wouldnt be a complete lie). Just be your lovely honest self 🙂 xxx
I have to go and get ready for my appt. don't worry outlander. It will be a huge relief when you do it and quite empowerring too. xxxx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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this is awful i havent had to do this before, i normally dont have trouble with people paying 😞 @Bunniekins
thank you for your help, good luck at your appt today
thank you for your help, good luck at your appt today
