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I hope this one pans out for you then @outlander.

Sometimes trauma therapy is the exact opposite to what we actually need. Just because we have suffered trauma does not mean that that type of therapy is appropriate for everyone. In you case it seems that you are not ready for it and you certainly need to feel comfortable and trust the therapist that is undertaking that with you as it is a big thing to do.

My pdoc does not believe this kind of therapy is appropriate for me - sometimes it is about moving forward rather than living in the past - that does not mean we do not delve into some things from my past but the main focus is on how we deal with thise things in the here and now and move on in the day-to-day.

The type of therapy you need, in my opinion, is much longer term than 10 sessions hon

You have multiple events that really affect you and you have limited/no support apart from here - so 10 sessions will only scratch the surface!

Hi @BlueBay and @Appleblossom

Your pdoc sounds like she understands you a bit better then @outlander - she is one to stick with!

I know you and @Sans911 are delving into DBT a bit but I do think it is crucial that you find a group that you can do this with. It is as much about being part of a group, working in a group, being able to talk in that group as it is about the skills. It is important to build that support base around you to help when the skills you are learning become overwhelming or difficult as well as being able to talk them out with someone... sounds like your pdoc is someone you could do this with but I understand there are time restrictions in only being able to see her every 6 weeks or so. The most important things for me with DBT are feeling more comfortable in the group and being able to discuss what we did in group with my pdoc afterwards - this step is crucial because it can often trigger things that leaving suppressed would do me more harm and that is not what DBT is all about.

@Zoe7 👋

@Appleblossom 👋

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Feel free to jump in here too @BlueBay - I am sure you have some views in your own experience that could help our @outlander

Hi @outlander

it is hard to find a therapist to help eith BPD. And as far DBT it is hard to find a place to go unless you drive a long distance.

Yesh msybe once you start individual sessions with your psych they can tell you about where you can do group therapy. But normally they are done at the same place.

Ive almost finished my 10 sessions and I've still got a long way to go.

Happy to chat with you. Xxx

That sounds like a good plan to begin with @outlander and then hopefully a group can be found for you. I know the wait list for our group is pretty long - my pdoc got me in very quickly - apparently she has a fair bit of say in those matters lol

Doing DBT with a psychologist is a good start though - they can explain things to you and prepare you for a group situaion and we can be here to help you with things that you don't fully understand when you are doing the homewrok you would need to do. But it is essential that you have that support to help you get through all this irl - particularly because there are things that you may need to go through that you cannot do on here.

Do you want to start making some sort of plan for the next few days - I don't think you should look further than tomorrow and the weekend right now - and we can do another plan on Sunday for the upcoming week...whatchya think?