outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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That is great news again from S2's point of view - will catch up with you later if I can Hon @Faith-and-Hope 
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
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@outlander
I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and sending you hugs and love ❤️ ❤️
BB xxxoo
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thankyou @SleepyPanda
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope hope you enjoy your night out ❤
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope hope you enjoy your night out ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thank you @Zoe7 makes more sense now.
I have realised i have a 'fix it' brain even if there isnt something to fix or its not my problem to fix but it has become that long term habit but im not sure how to change it. So im open to suggestions...
I know alot of this stems from my own traumas ( lack of control, feeling like i didnt protect those i love, invalidation, fear that something bad is lurking around every corner ( physically or mentally) )
Atm i dont really have supports offline... my gp is leaving and i havent got a new gp as yet. My psychiatrist i can usually only see every 6 weeks ( thats if im lucky and isnt booked our before hand) and i dont have a psychologist as yet. Im still enquiring about those.
I do want to change, i can see that my 'helping' in my mind might not actually be helping other people when in these sorts of states. I just.. i dont know what is real anymore in regards to something actually being wrong and when my mind is over reacting to things.
Somesort of plan would be good, i would appreciate your help if you could...
I have realised i have a 'fix it' brain even if there isnt something to fix or its not my problem to fix but it has become that long term habit but im not sure how to change it. So im open to suggestions...
I know alot of this stems from my own traumas ( lack of control, feeling like i didnt protect those i love, invalidation, fear that something bad is lurking around every corner ( physically or mentally) )
Atm i dont really have supports offline... my gp is leaving and i havent got a new gp as yet. My psychiatrist i can usually only see every 6 weeks ( thats if im lucky and isnt booked our before hand) and i dont have a psychologist as yet. Im still enquiring about those.
I do want to change, i can see that my 'helping' in my mind might not actually be helping other people when in these sorts of states. I just.. i dont know what is real anymore in regards to something actually being wrong and when my mind is over reacting to things.
Somesort of plan would be good, i would appreciate your help if you could...
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thank you @BlueBay ❣
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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You really need to do what you can to find a psychologist @outlander - I see this as a real sticking point for you - you need to be able to talk about things and there are some things you cannot say on here and I see those things as holding you back in being able to move forward at all. It is more than you being able to talk - it is also somewhere that you can gain more confidence in yourself and get help with being more assertive in you everyday life. No-one can live in a perpetual state of feeling like everyone is 'walking all over them' and I see that this is how you are feeling.
I am happy to help you make a plan but I think number 1 on that list needs to be finding a support person that you can unload all this to.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yep i know @Zoe7 ive enquired the bpd foundation who done a search but found nothing. Ive also enquired to 4 different psychs- 2 of them books closed, one has a wait list and one i had a phone chat with and she was like my previous psych ( overrode everything i said, cut my sentences off, rushed) so knew that wasnt going to work.
Im waiting on another one to get back to me , its out of area but im willing to travel so am broadening my search. I only wrote email today so hopefully hear back within the next day or so.
So i am trying to find another one and am looking into other gps as well
Im waiting on another one to get back to me , its out of area but im willing to travel so am broadening my search. I only wrote email today so hopefully hear back within the next day or so.
So i am trying to find another one and am looking into other gps as well
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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So you have the ball rolling on those things which is good @outlander I know it is hard to find health professionals that you click with but sometimes we need to look at ourselves as well as see if what we are expecting from them is a quick fix or a more longer term prospect. For you it is definitely a more longer-term relationship that may need to develop over time. I understand trust is a major hurdle for you but again - sometimes we need to stick it out with one person for a long time to gain some form of trust and thus be more comfortable in opening up.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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The last psych i tried to ride out and also talk to her about our sessions. By the end of it though i felt intimidated and she said that it is my fault i have mh issues as well as her ultimatum of you do trauma therapy or dont go to see her so i havent been back there.
Im trying to also find one that i can afford financially as my mhcp only has 3 sessions left before i need to pay full price. The one ive enquired about today offers paying just the gap fee and in some cases bulk bills so my fingers are crossed that she would be able to help me. For now its waiting... @Zoe7
Im trying to also find one that i can afford financially as my mhcp only has 3 sessions left before i need to pay full price. The one ive enquired about today offers paying just the gap fee and in some cases bulk bills so my fingers are crossed that she would be able to help me. For now its waiting... @Zoe7
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Oh and she also expected me to be better by the 10 sessions and no longer require therapy..
