outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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rough time
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Goodnight @Snowie thank you for helping and sitting with me today 💜💙💖
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Good night Snow Fox @Snowie
And yeh it is but they asked so I had no choice I guess.
Good night
And yeh it is but they asked so I had no choice I guess.
Good night
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Unknown userMember
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@outlander wrote:
Just worn down abit from something happening here but its my fault so cant really complain
Hi @outlander - just read this - hope you are okay? Is everything alright? What happened? Worried for you.
I am off to share a nice lunch with my husband and go for a walk on this beautiful day making the most of it.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Snowie @Sans911 @Former-Member .....
How do you get the words out to say what your struggling with?
How do you get the words out to say what your struggling with?
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander-Could you try to write it out on a Word document first? That way you can chop and change it if you need to, you can leave it and come back to later.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ive got pen and paper out @Sans911 ive gone through many pages and been trying to write it for a few hrs. I cant seem to get it out. It sounds very stupid to me 😔
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SnowieSenior Contributor
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@outlanderI like @Sans911 idea of writing it down, even in dot point form.
In saying that it is hard sometimes to say them let alone write them.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi Everyone
Ive been trying to think of what to say. Ive got alot of things happening that are affecting me but i think i can only work on one thing at a time so ill make this post about that for now.
Ive been struggling with this for a while but i could manage it ok but now it just seems to keep escalating.
I made a promise last year when i was first addmitted to hospital that if i noticed someone showing signs of a mental health or a physical issue i would try to help them.i didnt want anyone to go through this. I love to care about people but to this extent it is making it very hard to cope and its affecting my everyday living. Its obviously crept up but i noticed i had more of a problem when it come to the weekend.
Its like all i see of mental or physical health issues. Its more than just noticing something is wrong it is actually creating those issues and im having such a hard time telling what is real and what isnt. It use to just be close family but now it is strangers too.
It could be something very simple like saying 'i had a it of a rough night' or 'im not feeling very hungry' 'im feeling rather tired today' 'im feeling nervous' or someone being in a bad mood, look upset over say not winning an event. My brain goes into panic mode and thinks omg they have anxiety or they are going to end up with anxiety or omg something is wrong!
I am not sure if this is because of the promise i made nd my brain going into over drive protect mode, my past traumatic experiences, if the trauma work i was doing had made things worse in my head or maybe a combination of everything
Ive realised the first step in getting help is to accept that i have a problem and then to ask for help so... this is where i am right now.
Ive been trying to think of what to say. Ive got alot of things happening that are affecting me but i think i can only work on one thing at a time so ill make this post about that for now.
Ive been struggling with this for a while but i could manage it ok but now it just seems to keep escalating.
I made a promise last year when i was first addmitted to hospital that if i noticed someone showing signs of a mental health or a physical issue i would try to help them.i didnt want anyone to go through this. I love to care about people but to this extent it is making it very hard to cope and its affecting my everyday living. Its obviously crept up but i noticed i had more of a problem when it come to the weekend.
Its like all i see of mental or physical health issues. Its more than just noticing something is wrong it is actually creating those issues and im having such a hard time telling what is real and what isnt. It use to just be close family but now it is strangers too.
It could be something very simple like saying 'i had a it of a rough night' or 'im not feeling very hungry' 'im feeling rather tired today' 'im feeling nervous' or someone being in a bad mood, look upset over say not winning an event. My brain goes into panic mode and thinks omg they have anxiety or they are going to end up with anxiety or omg something is wrong!
I am not sure if this is because of the promise i made nd my brain going into over drive protect mode, my past traumatic experiences, if the trauma work i was doing had made things worse in my head or maybe a combination of everything
Ive realised the first step in getting help is to accept that i have a problem and then to ask for help so... this is where i am right now.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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'Or they are going to end up with anxiety or depression' re above msg
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Hey lil Sis @outlander. As you well know, everyone has good and bad days, mental illness or not. I am guessing that someone you care about in your family might be struggling with some things. I think when we have mental illness, it makes it amplified and seem all around us. And 1 in 3 people have some form of MI, so it is entirely possible. I think the nicest thing you could do is say to that person is 'I am here if you need me, I really care about what is happening for you, and if you are struggling, please don't be afraid to come and talk to me, I always be here to listen to you. And perhaps we can work it out together, or I could get you some extra help'. You have a heck of a lot on your plate though, so be very careful about ensuring you have healthy boundaries in place to protect yourself and the other person. Don't try to fix their problems, but at least acknowledge them and offer your support. I hope this is helpful for you
