outlanderSenior Contributor
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is anyone around to talk to atm
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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You beat me too it this morning @Sans911 morning sis ❤
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Morning also @Appleblossom @Former-Member @MDT and everyone here too
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Just tell the family members -
You have talked things over with your pop but he is not ready to take on the appointments he needs to have to get the things fixed that he is complaining about ....
Or -
Tell them he is becoming forgetful, so you have talked about the issues and the appointments are in the pipeline, but he keeps forgetting and having all the same conversations over again with people, so you are just keeping quiet about it, but getting done what needs to happen in the background without upsetting him.
With your Mum, if you are happy enough to support her by taking care of th e kids, unpaid, as much as you do, that is entirely up to you @outlander ..... and it will likely make you and your sisters very close in the long term, because you have been a lot like a mother to them as well as a sister.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope ill try those. Not that family listen to me anyway but worth a shot hey.
No im not happy with the amouny of things i do with the kids even though yes we are close but sometimes too close that none of us get to breathe or i get overwhelmed. Still working on that though and hopefully when mum settles into her work more and the house stuffs sorted itll become abit easier. Im too restricted to what i can do atm. I feel sometimes i cant have friends either or do tafe courses etc because i need to be around for the kids all the time.
No im not happy with the amouny of things i do with the kids even though yes we are close but sometimes too close that none of us get to breathe or i get overwhelmed. Still working on that though and hopefully when mum settles into her work more and the house stuffs sorted itll become abit easier. Im too restricted to what i can do atm. I feel sometimes i cant have friends either or do tafe courses etc because i need to be around for the kids all the time.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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That’s where it’s not fair to you @outlander ..... but sometimes it takes changing things by degrees rather than upturning the whole applecart.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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i think there has been a little bit of change at least @Faith-and-Hope when mum or her bf arent at work i dont have the kids so where i was constantly being a mum even when mum was around i get a day or 2 a week for myself or even and afternoon or 2 which is better than nothing. the weeks are a little hard as mums work can be unpredicable but he day or 2 away does make that difference
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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You may have helped your Mum settle more by the way you are managing @outlander .....
I am guessing that her life and circumstances have been traumatic in their own way, and the more things stabilise and the people in the middle of it stabilise and heal, the more ongoing stability and healing there is for everybody.
The kids will grow up. Things change ..... that’s the nature of life .....
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thats true @Faith-and-Hope lifes forever changing isnt it. Sometimes not fast enough but in time.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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@outlander how are you this evening?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Im alright thanks @MDT just abit tired
