rough time

Sorry babe just in The phone with mum. I will be back with you soon.
💙 @Former-Member

Don't let her get you down babe. You are nothing she says you are. Please be strong and remember I love you and you are strong 💜Nikki

@Lee82

How I am feeling right now. 💛Bear

https://youtu.be/4YSYDYiKmGA

@Lee82

Hope you are ok @Lee82 💖Izzy

Just to remind you babe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrqkqdErHxc&feature=share

Sorry about that babe. Just got off the phone. She was talking to me about my boys. My boys are very close with my mum which I am so happy about. They have a great relationship. My boys open up to mum and her partner about their dad and how much they hate going there and how their dad does nothing with them how much they hate exh girlfriend etc. which great that they can talk about their feelings however I wish it wasn't with my mum because then she puts a lot of pressure on me to do something about. To confront exh and say all these nasty things to him and threaten him with taking the kids away from Him etc. she goes on and on and on and on about it. And it's the way she says it to me and the tone of her voice and the words she chooses to use. They are hurtful.
I have confronted him a lot about this situation but nothing has changed. They still hate going and mr8 is feeling it emotionally and psychologically which kills me to bits. I just don't know what to do about the situation. My kids are being affected badly by their dad.
sorry about my rant just needed to get it off my chest.
@Former-Member

Oh sweetie. You just have to keep trying. No matter how hard it gets. You have to be strong because you are strong. You've been through a lot but your still here I am so very grateful for that cause I wouldn't have met you and I won't have felt the love and compassion I feel towards you. You have made feel something else instead of pain and hurt and hatred.
💜 @Former-Member

Thanks babe. That gross a lot. More than you know. 💜💚💙❤️
@Former-Member how you going?

My love never ever apologise for getting something off your chest. Pity your mother wasn't a bit kinder in her choice of words and tone. It is awesome that your boys have someone they can confide in. But remember how she use to manipulate you as a kid, now I am not saying she is doing that to the boys but is she still doing that you, I mean her interpretation of what the boys are saying and how she is saying it to you? People that like to control will always and only say and do what they think will have the "best" effect on the person they are hell bent on controlling. I am so sorry that Mr8 is having so much trouble with his father. I used to have exh2 in my ear all the time telling me what to say, how to act around the kids father and it's really hard. They don't understand that you can see what it is doing to your kids and you feel powerless to do anything but pick up the pieces. Which makes you think you are the worst mother in the world. They just don't get it.

sweetie, how are you feeling? 💖Izzy

@Lee82

I will tell you if you tell me💖Izzy

@Lee82

You are so right. That is exactly what she is doing. She has this need to control everything especially me. She needs this situation to go the way she wants it to go. i feel like I can't ever do anything without her interfering and making me change my mind to best suit her. She is very narcissistic. She was very erratic growing up. I remember coming home from school you would never know who would open the door. Nice mum or nasty mum and even if she was the nice mum in that moment you never knew if she would turn into nasty mum in a split second fit reasons I could never understand. It was like always walking on eggshells around her. I never felt safe at home under my parents roof. Mum being the way she was and dad being physically abusive. It was hell on earth.
mom doing ok honey. Just agitated and angry.
how about you? You ok my friend?
@Former-Member