rough time

@Former-Member

I am not leaving you right now unless you want to be left alone. Thank you for being so concerned Bear. That's sweet.

@Former-Member

Yea it is very important especially for your mental health. Do you feel like you could get some rest?

@Lee82 , Hi sweet lady. Sorry I left before and you got Bear. While she is trouble for us she is terribly sweet but also highly Insecure. She feels the emotional neglect from our mother, she took on all of the moments Izzy was told or shown that she wasn't good, wasn't enough, didn't deserve friendship, love or kindness. I hope ah has been to much for you tonight. Again Lee sorry for skipping out 💜💜

@Former-Member

Please don't apologise Nikki. I totally understand. We all need some time out from time to time. I hope you are feeling ok. It was nice to meet Bear. She is sweet but sadly does feel she isn't good. I was glad to keep her company while you took some time out.

Are you ok Nikki? Are you safe?
@Former-Member

Thanks again @Lee82 I had an ahh moment and realised what has Izzy in a downwards spiral. She is struggling to comprehend something she realised last Thursday. She loves exh2 but she is not in love with him. This may seem insignificant to most but he is her everything. He is woven into her being so much that she doesn't see how she can live without him. She was hoping that within 2 years they would be back together and moving forward with their marriage. I can't imagine what life would be like with out being in a relationship with him either. While we have all the toxic things he has done running through our mind, he has done so much for Izzy and her 3 kids and the love and compassion she has received from him is not measurable. Maybe that is why I am here because most of the time I am around there is very little romantic interaction. Every other aspect and Izzy can't help themselves around him, can't help kissing and other stuff with him. We need a little distance now though.

How are you? Have you been able to keep the SH monster at bay tonight my friend

@Lee82 , I am safe enough. Thank you for asking beautiful 💜

@Former-Member

I can completely understand all of that. I think it is ok that he is a part of izzys life. He seems to be very protective and I can see that he loves her too. Who's to say she needs to live without him. Why can't he always be apart of her life in some way? Izzy may not want to rely on him forever but for now I think that is ok. Especially knowing that he is ok with it too.
it is very hard to forget what a person has done to us especially when it is about abuse. Everyone reacts to this differently and if Izzy is willing and able to see his good side and that he has done a lot of good since then, then their relationship is ok. Does Izzy and the aspect regret doing what they do with exh2 afterwards?
please remember if I ask a question you don't feel comfortable answering just let me know. There will be zero offence taken.

I am so relieved to hear that. 💗

@Former-Member

What about you my friend are you safe tonight? @Lee82