outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
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rough time
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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Are you in pain or is it other stuff as well? @outlander
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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both @Maggie
the pain for both dental and latest procedure is just making it a big mess even with pain relief. the cramping comes and goes for one but atm it is so intense I can barely move. apparently this is normal for the first week or so but it so painful.
the other stuff is building up though. it all feels hard between financial worries, pops issues, pain, but my days are so empty and just a nothing.
the pain for both dental and latest procedure is just making it a big mess even with pain relief. the cramping comes and goes for one but atm it is so intense I can barely move. apparently this is normal for the first week or so but it so painful.
the other stuff is building up though. it all feels hard between financial worries, pops issues, pain, but my days are so empty and just a nothing.
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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It’s hard to keep going with constant pain @outlander . Intense pain normal ???? for a whole week. That’s awful @outlander .
Thats too much for you to have to cope with on top of your own issues @outlander , someone ‘should’ be helping you. This is abusive. Sorry to be so blunt, it’s not right at all.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Yeah apparently intense pain is normal @Maggie they said it should start to ease after that but will still be intense every now and then but not constant then after 3 months it should be no or very little pain so im going to try and ride it out at least for a few weeks.
On Thursday i have a meeting with a dementia support worker who help with social groups and support for pop along with some supports/things i can access as well so hopefully some positive change will be on the horizon.
I also feel like im stuffing up my sisters life too.
And on top of that i feel lazy and like my days are meaningless. I dont want to do some of these things in my life but without them i literally am doing nothing.
On Thursday i have a meeting with a dementia support worker who help with social groups and support for pop along with some supports/things i can access as well so hopefully some positive change will be on the horizon.
I also feel like im stuffing up my sisters life too.
And on top of that i feel lazy and like my days are meaningless. I dont want to do some of these things in my life but without them i literally am doing nothing.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Also embarrssed at how the nerve issue in my jaw is affecting me, not only physically but also mentally as well.
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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Ohhhhh @outlander time to give yourself a break I think. You are healing from surgery, that takes time. Also another painful procedure, it has to slow things down for a while.
I hope the supports put in place will help out with your pop. Are they aware of what’s been happening in your life?
Stuffing up your sisters life @outlander ??? Sounds like depression and it’s little mind twisters are not helping atm. I think you are a very positive influence in your sisters life. I do get it though, how things get off kilter in thinking at times.
I just wish so much was different for you. 💕💕💕💕💕
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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im not use to slowing down, everything is usually flat out and stop @Maggie its weird for me to only have one or 2 things to do in the day.
they are aware of some of whats happening but that's what the meetings about too. get like background and family sort of situational stuff out of the way as well as discussing options and whats available etc. hes said to make a 2 hr gap so its a big session.
yeah my sisters life. ever since I made the decision to get the horse I chose for her ive regretted it. I thought it might've been a good choice for her and any challenges that come up she would rise to the occasion instead she rides other peoples horses. I forget sometimes that not everyone is the way I was and would take on the difficult horses and improve them. both of my sisters need the quiet to do anything with sorts of horses, not the ones that need improving. its hard when she says she doesn't or cant be bothered riding her or doesn't want to do the sporting club next yr (because of the horse which is becoming more and more obvious the way she talks about her). I don't seem to be making very good decisions anymore. 😞
I don't know what I would do if I was to give things up here, I have no skills in anything. my life has been built on pleasing and helping other people no matter what the costs are to me
they are aware of some of whats happening but that's what the meetings about too. get like background and family sort of situational stuff out of the way as well as discussing options and whats available etc. hes said to make a 2 hr gap so its a big session.
yeah my sisters life. ever since I made the decision to get the horse I chose for her ive regretted it. I thought it might've been a good choice for her and any challenges that come up she would rise to the occasion instead she rides other peoples horses. I forget sometimes that not everyone is the way I was and would take on the difficult horses and improve them. both of my sisters need the quiet to do anything with sorts of horses, not the ones that need improving. its hard when she says she doesn't or cant be bothered riding her or doesn't want to do the sporting club next yr (because of the horse which is becoming more and more obvious the way she talks about her). I don't seem to be making very good decisions anymore. 😞
I don't know what I would do if I was to give things up here, I have no skills in anything. my life has been built on pleasing and helping other people no matter what the costs are to me
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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im really sorry to put this on you 😞 @Maggie
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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I did that with my life also @outlander pleased others. It’s called survival....unfortunately for many of us. We can only do what we can do. Choices we make are done with the knowledge have at the time. Hindsight has all the answers, but it always kicks our butt later.
I don’t know what to say regarding giving up the life you have now. I guess I was in a position like that, but different, when my husband walked out. I really didn’t think I could do things differently and face things myself. I guess to some I’m not doing it well, but I can only do what works for me. You too, if your life changed, you will find ways to cope. Maybe even enjoy some freedom, once you adjust to it. I don’t know though. We are all different.
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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No need to be sorry @outlander. I’m here because I want to be. Because I care about you. 💜💜💜
