outlanderSenior Contributor
rough time
is anyone around to talk to atm
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Sophia1Senior Contributor
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so sorry @outlander did not receive notification that you had responded..
I am not sure whether or not you have already tried this..
will suggest just in case..
ring the surgery where you had the operation and ask to speak to a nurse as you have some concerns..
even if you have been given written information you have every right to make the call...
that is so much to deal with physically....
part of any operation is having access to talk to someone re any concerns after...so you are not alone...you are not putting anyone out just in case you are worried about that..
as for permanent...steer your mind away from that..
it is very early days and your body is still trying to heal itself..
re pop situation...are you saying that you have to pay for his hearing aids?
this is not something that you can assist with at the moment..
your mum having a new job is a financial help for the family..
however her children are not your responsibility..
she is their mum she needs to sort it out...find help elsewhere..
I know that you feel that you are the only one to look after these family members..
If you were in hospital who would have to step up and take over?
Consider that you are in rehabilitation and if you are not able to rehabilitate there you will have to do so elsewhere..
then your mum will have to change her schedule temporarily..
Sorry to sound so blunt.
I have had to do this in the past with my ex-husband when sharing custody of our children.
you have no choice in this at the moment if you want to recover from the surgery..
you have to look after you only for now..
You are constantly being placed in an extremely difficult situation where you are expected to do the caring no matter what.
This attitude is wrong.
If you can't talk to your mum...write her a letter and leave it where she will find it..
are you able to stay anywhere else for a while?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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that's ok @Sophia1
the good thing about the forums is you can come and go as you like with no obligations
ive seen my surgeon and spoken to them about my concerns. she has said to give it 3 more weeks and see if theres any improvement. she said if it gets worse though to give them a ring and make the appointment for earlier.
I cant ring the nurses at the hospital that I was in as my surgeon works out of a few hospitals so the nurses just care pre and post op but beyond that I have to speak with my surgeon.
my pop will be paying for his hearing aids. the $2000 is after the government discounts as well. I cant imagine how many people especially those that aren't working or pensioners would be struggling to pay for these but he needs them so we will get them.
mums partner does help when hes not working. picks them up etc but he has been having similar shifts to mum atm. when they aren't working they take them to and from school though.
unfortunately there isn't anyone else that could help. it really is just us 3 sadly. if I was to end up in hospital they would need to take time off. they took a few days off for me during the first few days after my op but they really do need to work. most of the day im at home so am resting unless im having to manage pop or do most of the other stuff.
im also stressed about how the new contraception will react to my body. im not sure if you've caught the latest news about my diagnosis....? itll be the first time ive had one and its one that's a invasive. I know I cant mention it but I have a feeling you could guess what it might be. im hoping no major side effects as ive volunteered to be a photographer at an event during the entire weekend. I cant back out now, ive already volunteered months ago and it is something that I enjoy so my fingers will be crossed
the good thing about the forums is you can come and go as you like with no obligations
ive seen my surgeon and spoken to them about my concerns. she has said to give it 3 more weeks and see if theres any improvement. she said if it gets worse though to give them a ring and make the appointment for earlier.
I cant ring the nurses at the hospital that I was in as my surgeon works out of a few hospitals so the nurses just care pre and post op but beyond that I have to speak with my surgeon.
my pop will be paying for his hearing aids. the $2000 is after the government discounts as well. I cant imagine how many people especially those that aren't working or pensioners would be struggling to pay for these but he needs them so we will get them.
mums partner does help when hes not working. picks them up etc but he has been having similar shifts to mum atm. when they aren't working they take them to and from school though.
unfortunately there isn't anyone else that could help. it really is just us 3 sadly. if I was to end up in hospital they would need to take time off. they took a few days off for me during the first few days after my op but they really do need to work. most of the day im at home so am resting unless im having to manage pop or do most of the other stuff.
im also stressed about how the new contraception will react to my body. im not sure if you've caught the latest news about my diagnosis....? itll be the first time ive had one and its one that's a invasive. I know I cant mention it but I have a feeling you could guess what it might be. im hoping no major side effects as ive volunteered to be a photographer at an event during the entire weekend. I cant back out now, ive already volunteered months ago and it is something that I enjoy so my fingers will be crossed
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Sophia1Senior Contributor
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hello @outlander
rehabilitation is rehabilitation...not caring for others at the same time..
very sorry to be so blunt..
you are so accustomed to putting others first and yes I agree wholeheartedly is very difficult..
job wise yes too.
at end of day they have to deal with it..you are not well enough
contraception side would be best for you to speak to someone in the area that you have volunteered as those are very understandable concerns...
again you would not be alone in feeling that way..
best to get medical advise from qualified medical people..
will try to check in later
sorry to be so hard on you...❣
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Gazza75Senior Contributor
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Hi @outlander and @Sophia1 🙂
I'm around for a few hours, but, I have a meeting or two coming up.
Pretty darn warm outside. I'm heading out to my farm this arvo, but, might hold off an hour or two and see if it cools down a little.
I'm not sure how people get by these days, everything is so expensive. I was joking the other day that everyone will be vegan soon due to meat prices getting so expensive.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Gazza75 its really hot here too.
Good luck with your meetings. Hope they go ok
Good luck with your meetings. Hope they go ok
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Sophia1 i see my nurse on monday to discuss concerns before i get scripts out for it.
Yeah i will have to look at ways to put in some more boundaries. Dont know whats more tiring- meeting expectations or trying to keep up with boundaries 🤔
Yeah i will have to look at ways to put in some more boundaries. Dont know whats more tiring- meeting expectations or trying to keep up with boundaries 🤔
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Gazza75Senior Contributor
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Thanks @outlander ,
We've made the executive decision to cancel the meetings while our manager is on holidays. Happy days. I'm glad this week is almost done and dusted.
Lets hope for a cool change soon 🙂
Ahoy @Former-Member , hope are doing okay 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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sounds like a good idea re meetings @Gazza75
its starting to rain here but its not really any cooler.
just in the middle of selling whatever I don't need to add to the bill savings funds. sad that its coming to this really.
its starting to rain here but its not really any cooler.
just in the middle of selling whatever I don't need to add to the bill savings funds. sad that its coming to this really.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member @CheerBear 👋❤
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Fly by hi 👋 @outlander and some ❤ to you.
Gathering the little crew o'clock for me 🙂 Hope your afternoon has some OK about it 👋
Gathering the little crew o'clock for me 🙂 Hope your afternoon has some OK about it 👋
