rough time

your a cutie @Former-Member

how are you today? many plans?

Sounds like an easy going day @Former-Member ive just finished my washing and done physio exercises. I dont have much to d either and its getting quite hot so if the kids ride it wont be till much later now. Hoping the pain stays away as i cant take the pain meds during the day- makes me drowsy.

Aw little cutie she is keeping you company. The cooler months cant come soon enough thats for sure. I find the heat and humidity just makes things to hard to do.

Hmm hopefully your appt goes well tomorrow, perhaps a change of heart about the sedatives

👋 @outlander. You had a dental thing you wanted to talk about earlier? Not sure if I'll be be able to help but I'm ears (eyes) 🙂

yes please if thats ok @CheerBear ..

i am very much freaking out over it and the organising thing i have to be doing. with the new info comes new worries sort of thing.
i am feeling really frazzled so please bare with me while i try to explain...

Ive been told that ill need to be there a day early for pre-admissions and that is between 730 and 11 in the morning so its pretty early. so im not sure whether to stay there the night before pre accomodation or not. as its so far away itll be around a 5am train ride or i can drive which will be about the same but i can come back then go back on the pre admisson in the arvo. im worried the kids are going to miss to much school otherwise. and then im debating if i should jsut come home straight after the op or if i should stay a night or 2 up there.

so maybe if i put it into perspective itll make sense....

13th- pre-op admissions
14th-op day

to i dont know whether to stay the 12th r just do a day trip and then come back

and then i dont know if i should stay a night or 2 after the op or if i should just go home while im not in complete agony..

so i know i wont be able to drive for 48hrs (as ive been told) but i ahve no intentions on going anywhere looking like a chipmunk. so ill need help at least during that time and have been told the post op isnt to bad as everythings numb etc but then the 3-4 days after are pretty awful and thats usually when i like to be in the comfort of my own home. the thing that comes into it more is where i am they arent as experienced with this sort of thing so i worry if i go home and something goes wrong it wont be the best treatment sort of thing.

because its 2 hrs away the family will be coming with me- mum, her bf and the kids which is rather overwhelming but i dont have anyone else unless i book a hotel room for them and then one for me and hire a nurse for the night.

Firstly big hugs @outlander. That's a lot to think about and to try and organise.

I guess my immediate thought is that it isn't until November and that's a while away. Does it all need to be worked out now?

It's very stressful trying to work out how to fit in sick days (which I guess this kind of is!) with so many responsibilities. I've had lots of trouble before with me needing time out for things like this while also needing the kids sorted. Could you run these worries over with your GP and see what they think? They'll know more about post-op recovery and who is around in your area if you need to see someone after you have your teeth out.

it doesnt quite have to worked out right this minute but my last check in both airbnb and the nearby hotels they are booking out really quickly between october and january. im not sure if thats a holiday period but they are seeming to book out fast which is kinda what is causing the stress as well. the support worker and things for pop can wait but the hotels are going very quickly.

mum wont come on her own either and thats not something im comfortable with either. i know she will be stressing on the day and having the kids and her bf nearby will help her and also since its a whole new area and i dont like the idea of the kids being with someone else as that also stresses me to. such a complicated human being i am!
im aware the hospitals nearby can handle it sort of thing but they arent as good as the one ill be going to for the op esp since im high risk for everything.

i had even asked if it was possible for me to stay in a ward overnight rather than it being a day surgury but they already said no unless a complication arisies that requires a hospital stay.

i dont really want the kids missing out on school to much or them for work and i know me being away will also stress pop out.

the surgury is on a thursday
so if i stay 12, 13, 14 and 15th the kids are missing almsot a week off school.
i could maybe stay 13 14 and 15th but i dont know whether to jsut come home or not on the op day.

can i ask what your experience was like @CheerBear ?
i know you cant tell me what to do but maybe hearing what you mgihtve done or how you had felt would give me an idea?
no one in the family has had this done either so im on my own again in experiences